If you have had an abortion

I had a one night stand with a guy who was a big time pot smoker, still lived at home and worked at a drug store. I too lived at home and knew that If my parents found out they would dissown me. I regret it every day. When I see the beautiful pictures of every ones babies it just rips my heart out. The baby would be around 12 now. I feel like God is punishing me despite the numerous times I pray for forgiveness. To this day it is the BIGGEST mistake I have ever made.

I get why you're saying what you're saying, but a life is a life, no matter what god (or no god) you serve.  I was pregnant when I was 16, but I could never have taken my child's life.  Being "wanted" doesn't give a baby worth, and doesn't determine whether or not that child should live.  It is difficult to be in that situation, but we're not talking about the choice to get a tattoo or a tongue ring, this is about killing a baby.

I know a lot of pro-choice moms will say "it's not a baby, it's a fetus" or "I have the right to control my own body", but 1) it is a baby, and the term fetus is latin for "little one" and is merely a term for the stage of development, not meant to devalue the baby's life.  When all us moms were pregnant, how many of you referred to your "fetus" througout your pregnancy??  And 2)  Genetically and in every way that matters, that is your baby's body you are controlling, it has different DNA, and possibly it's own blood type and gender.  You can do what you want with your own body, but you shouldn't have the "right" to kill someone else because that's their body!

I'm so sorry you went through this, but if you have prayed to God for forgiveness, you are forgiven!!  I will pray for you that you are able to let this burden go!

Quoting Brooke501:

I had a one night stand with a guy who was a big time pot smoker, still lived at home and worked at a drug store. I too lived at home and knew that If my parents found out they would dissown me. I regret it every day. When I see the beautiful pictures of every ones babies it just rips my heart out. The baby would be around 12 now. I feel like God is punishing me despite the numerous times I pray for forgiveness. To this day it is the BIGGEST mistake I have ever made.

Did you have anymore children?  I can only imagine the turmoil you must go through, I wont judge you because I am pro-choice but I myself would never have one.

Quoting Brooke501:

I had a one night stand with a guy who was a big time pot smoker, still lived at home and worked at a drug store. I too lived at home and knew that If my parents found out they would dissown me. I regret it every day. When I see the beautiful pictures of every ones babies it just rips my heart out. The baby would be around 12 now. I feel like God is punishing me despite the numerous times I pray for forgiveness. To this day it is the BIGGEST mistake I have ever made.

Wow..usually the person who posts anything about abortion gets bashed..good for you..lol.  Well I worked in clinic (for externship) that performed abortions up to 22 weeks. That means that usually the mother knew what they were having and it was really hard. But a medical professional is not allowed to voice thier personal opinion...only to offer the best medical advice for the situation. I have seen young girls (we're talking 13 and 14) come in with their parents. I've seen a woman get one because her husband wanted a boy. I've also seen women with pregnancies with alot of anomalies (no chance that the baby would have a normal life) have to make the decision.  I have seen women with 2 or 3 kids already that have had abortions in between and are now pregnant again..I woonder how you pick and choose which kids you keep and which you don't.  And I absolutely hate the "I can't afford birth control, or I forgot to take my pill, shot..etc.  ANY womens clinic in America will give you birth control for free...they have too...thats what their funded for. We spend alot of time judging people but we have to remember that as women we fought for the right to make decisions about our own bodies whether we agree with it or not is your choice.

I was forced into one by the father. I'm sure I'll get bashed here for saying that, and yes...I'm aware that I am my own person, but he had me trapped and i didn't stand a chance. He drove me there, paid for it and waited until I was done; then he dropped me off at my place and left to go to a Raiders game in California. He was my boyfriend of 3 years who promised me that everything was going to be ok, and that he was happy to start a family with me (and yes, I was 29 at the time).

To this day...I still wish I would have made that mad dash for the backdoor and had never signed that piece of paper. But I can't go back, I can only love and cherish the daughter I have today.

I never had one but if I had to, I probably would. Of course this is after I looked and assessed all of my other options, and leaving abortion as a last resort,,

That sucks. But it happened so I see no need for anyone to "bash" you...I am glad you are okay. That's what matters!!! Been there, done that, assholes will be assholes.

Quoting ddwin:

I was forced into one by the father. I'm sure I'll get bashed here for saying that, and yes...I'm aware that I am my own person, but he had me trapped and i didn't stand a chance. He drove me there, paid for it and waited until I was done; then he dropped me off at my place and left to go to a Raiders game in California. He was my boyfriend of 3 years who promised me that everything was going to be ok, and that he was happy to start a family with me (and yes, I was 29 at the time).

To this day...I still wish I would have made that mad dash for the backdoor and had never signed that piece of paper. But I can't go back, I can only love and cherish the daughter I have today.

First off I want to say I am pro life.. I had my son at 16 he is 3 now and I now have a 1 month old little girl after 2 M.cs. Due to partial molar pregnancy's and Trophoblastic cancer.. If I would not had miscarried I would of had to terminate the pregnancy because the cancer came back.. A partial molar cannot live!! They do not thrive and it can potentially kill you. I get tired of hearing ppl sat if your por life you believe in it, and you in no way agree with abortion. All I can say if you have not a life threatning illness and had to make the choice YOU DO NOT KNOW WHAT YOU WOULD DO.. I thank GOD I did not have to make that choice.. but If I would have had to I just would of.. I would have been devestated and I would feel awful but I know I have kids here who I have to take care of... And the baby would never live.. So thats in the defense of a life threating situation.. Anyways I hope I am making sense!!!

And I agree we should not bash eachother or even lecture anyone on the choices each of us have made.. It just happens it is still a choice.. There are different situations and we are not here to judge

i had one, i was 15 and had no where to go, my parents said it was that or i was on ,my own. to this day it is my biggest mistake. my mother even regrets having me do that. i did have my oldest when i was 16 and they have helped me from day one. it is a pain that never goes away. i love my children and would not give them up for anything. this is something that is hard for me and i do pray aout all the time. it is also not something many people know including most of my family.