need an opion

Hard to say. I think you should go with your gut. but honestly, if it was me and your position, my gut would be telling me to forget about him, let him and your girls be with one another ofcorse, but i would not accept him back after that. I am sorry i must not be of much help.But its the only honest answer i can give you.

ya its just hes the only boy I have ever been with so it would be weird to go out on a date, and then I have two kids which would make it even more weird

I KNOW YOU GUYS HAVE 2 KIDS TOGETHER, BUT YOU ARE WAY WAY TOO YOUNG TO BE WORRYING YOURSELF WITH THIS. JUST TAKE CARE OF YOU AND THE KIDS AND IF IT IS MEANT FOR YOU TO BE WITH HIM LATER YOU WILL BE. LET HIM GO DO HIS THANG CAUSE HE IS GOING TO DO IT WHETHER HE IS WITH YOU OR NOT. AT LEAST HE HAD ENOUGH RESPECT FOR YOU TO NOT CHEAT ON YOU. BUT LIKE I SAID JUST SLOW DOWN, AND THINGS WILL WORK OUT.

I know how you feel. i was never one to date around much either, hell i was engaged at 14, but people with kiddos get out there all the time. Just find someone you can like and trust and find a trustworthy dependable babysitter. Or hell just go out to the pool hall or something with some friends and go from there. It will be okay eventually. I know it must be hard but from what you have told me, your better than him, so you deserve better, take care of your kiddos and when their taken care of, go and ahve some fun!

Quoting tawnyat33nmom:

ya its just hes the only boy I have ever been with so it would be weird to go out on a date, and then I have two kids which would make it even more weird

Quoting tawnyat33nmom:

Ok so I am new on here but wanted some advice, and I know I may get some harsh words for this but I just need some point of view and dont want to ask my mom.

So the father of my two girls and I broke up because he said he need some space, we have a 2 almost three year old, and a almost 7 month old. I just turned 16 in july, and hes gonna be 18 next January. We've been together for 4 years, I know were young but I am really hurt. He said he just wants to see whats out there because he is young. That way if we get back togther he wont have thoughts of cheating anymore. He still comes over to see the girls everyday, which hurts even more because then I see him everyday. I stay at home all day with them which I do love, but it doesnt get me out there to see whats out there like he is. I just hate this, am I being stupid should I just let him go, and deal with whatever happens?

Sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. My thoughts are that he has another girl in mind. He's gonna go mess around with her, then when he gets tired of that, he'll come back to you. If I were you, I wouldn't let that happen. If it were me, I'd let him go, but tell him that if he leaves, he can't come back. Stay friends with him for the kids--but don't let him back romantically, otherwise he'll think it's okay to use you like that. It's not fair to you at all. Basically--I'd give him an ultimatum--all or nothing. He can't keep you on the sideburner. If he loved you and cared about you, he wouldn't have thoughts of cheating at all. That's just my opinion.

Sorry men can be such assholes.

Also, don't let anybody hate on you for being a teen mom. Just because you're young doesn't mean you can't be a great mommy. You worry about taking care of your kids and yourself and don't worry what others think.

Good luck.

to be honest, i see what hes saying, im a young mom too so their aint no bashing the young moms thing here lol

you all were young and been together since you were 12? or 13? whatever it is, being with the same person for that long and through the teenage ages is pretty hard. You all havent experienced "dating" and im sure he is curious what is out there as well as you, im almost positive he'll go back to you but maybe you should try what hes doing, maybe no break up, but talk to him about a break. And yes, you all taking this "break" will help you all in the future, the curiousity which could possibly lead to cheating will most likely happen if you dont go through this. But theres also that saying that if they come back their yours forever.

Times may be hard now but you'll get through it, but explore the world outside, have your mom babysit and maybe go to a party, talk to other guys, explore your options

Ya I was 12 and he was 13 when we started daiting, then I got pregnant with our first sadie at thirteen so we were really young

Quoting xyoungmamax:

to be honest, i see what hes saying, im a young mom too so their aint no bashing the young moms thing here lol

you all were young and been together since you were 12? or 13? whatever it is, being with the same person for that long and through the teenage ages is pretty hard. You all havent experienced "dating" and im sure he is curious what is out there as well as you, im almost positive he'll go back to you but maybe you should try what hes doing, maybe no break up, but talk to him about a break. And yes, you all taking this "break" will help you all in the future, the curiousity which could possibly lead to cheating will most likely happen if you dont go through this. But theres also that saying that if they come back their yours forever.

Times may be hard now but you'll get through it, but explore the world outside, have your mom babysit and maybe go to a party, talk to other guys, explore your options

I agree with mikeys mom

Quoting MikeysMom51108:

Quoting tawnyat33nmom:

Ok so I am new on here but wanted some advice, and I know I may get some harsh words for this but I just need some point of view and dont want to ask my mom.

So the father of my two girls and I broke up because he said he need some space, we have a 2 almost three year old, and a almost 7 month old. I just turned 16 in july, and hes gonna be 18 next January. We've been together for 4 years, I know were young but I am really hurt. He said he just wants to see whats out there because he is young. That way if we get back togther he wont have thoughts of cheating anymore. He still comes over to see the girls everyday, which hurts even more because then I see him everyday. I stay at home all day with them which I do love, but it doesnt get me out there to see whats out there like he is. I just hate this, am I being stupid should I just let him go, and deal with whatever happens?

Sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. My thoughts are that he has another girl in mind. He's gonna go mess around with her, then when he gets tired of that, he'll come back to you. If I were you, I wouldn't let that happen. If it were me, I'd let him go, but tell him that if he leaves, he can't come back. Stay friends with him for the kids--but don't let him back romantically, otherwise he'll think it's okay to use you like that. It's not fair to you at all. Basically--I'd give him an ultimatum--all or nothing. He can't keep you on the sideburner. If he loved you and cared about you, he wouldn't have thoughts of cheating at all. That's just my opinion.

Sorry men can be such assholes.

Also, don't let anybody hate on you for being a teen mom. Just because you're young doesn't mean you can't be a great mommy. You worry about taking care of your kids and yourself and don't worry what others think.

Good luck.

OMG YOUR GETTING SOME BAD ADVICE. YOUR "FUN TIME" IS AT A STAND SITLL FOR NOW YOU HAVE 2 KIDS. ITS NOT A GOOD IDEA TO DATE RIGHT NOW YOU HAVE YEARS AHEAD OF YOU TO DO ALL THAT BULLSHIT. DO NOT BRING ANOTHER BOY INTO YOUR LIFE IT WILL JUST ADD CONFUSION. WHAT'S UP WITH YOUR HIGH SCHOOL DIPLOMA?

now this is bad "advice" this needs an ignore button

Quoting HOT-T:

OMG YOUR GETTING SOME BAD ADVICE. YOUR "FUN TIME" IS AT A STAND SITLL FOR NOW YOU HAVE 2 KIDS. ITS NOT A GOOD IDEA TO DATE RIGHT NOW YOU HAVE YEARS AHEAD OF YOU TO DO ALL THAT BULLSHIT. DO NOT BRING ANOTHER BOY INTO YOUR LIFE IT WILL JUST ADD CONFUSION. WHAT'S UP WITH YOUR HIGH SCHOOL DIPLOMA?