I went to grab a coffee with a good friend the other day and we were discussing our relationships. She's been married for over 10 years and says she was having a day where she didn’t want to be married.
I asked her if she and her husband were fighting, or if there was a big issue and she said no.
“I’m just missing being single and being able to do what I wanted without having to consult another person”
Dreaming about your single days every now and again is perfectly normal
It’s not always easy to come to a compromise with another person. We all have those days when we just want to pick up and do our own thing. We all have crushes on people who aren’t our partner, or find ourselves thinking the grass would be greener if we didn’t have to coordinate a schedule, or we could pick any paint color we wanted for the walls.
Once we normalize this we will see that it’s just a thought
It doesn't necessarily mean we want to leave our partners or make us bad people.
If the good days outnumber the bad and if you find yourself, more often than not, being thankful you have a safe place to come to after a hard day, and your partner enhances your life — that’s a pretty good indicator you don’t have to worry about missing your single days.
Take it from someone who has been divorced — when you don’t want to be married or partnered any longer you will know. Your entire body and mind will be consumed with that decision.
So, if you are worrying about a fantasy about someone else, or are thinking about how much easier your life used to be, and also finding that venting about it or reconnecting with your partner makes you feel better and thankful to have the relationship you do — don’t worry.
Everyone has these thoughts and it’s perfectly normal.
