Activity Basics
Online Surfing
Tune into what entertains and excites your preteen by surfing online together. Ask your child to show you some of her favorite web sites, videos and even photos of friends. Keep an open mind and remember that your preteen is exploring her likes and dislikes and these may differ vastly from yours. “Let them know that this is not to judge them but instead understand them,” says Ives. “Do your best to not allow your own frustrations or feelings of rejection to cause you to withdraw or become disengaged.”
Family Movies
Reminisce with your child by breaking out family photo albums and videos. Show your preteen her first steps, first words and family outings from the past. This is an opportunity to reflect on memories and identify distant relatives. Imagine your preteen’s reaction when you show her your wedding video — be prepared for some giggles.
Culinary Creations
Although preteens may sigh and moan at the mention of household chores, spice up their attitude by cooking a meal together. Ask your preteen for his suggestions and then shop together for ingredients and share the meal preparation tasks. Allowing your preteen more responsibility when providing food for the family not only enhances your family bond, but also his confidence as a contributing member of the household.
Crafty Cafes
Spark each family member’s creativity with a trip to a local pottery, art or clay cafe, suggests Ives. Your preteen can paint, draw or sculpt a craft of her choice while showing off her artistic side. “It’s an opportunity to share ideas, praise each other’s successes and have light conversation,” says Ives.
Family Mural
Take arts and crafts to a whole new level by creating a family mural. Simply purchase a large drawing board from an art supply store and allow each family member space to add his or her creative touch to the mural, recommends Dr. Fran Walfish, California-based psychotherapist and author of “The Self-Aware Parent.” Drawing allows your preteen to express himself. “The way to overcome resistances and conflicts are for parents to create open pathways of communication with their preteens,” says Walfish.
Beauty Treatments
Share some quality time and some beauty secrets with your preteen. Lather on beauty masks together or spruce up those nails and toes with some color. “Get a manicure and pedicure together,” says Ives. “If you can’t afford to go out to get one, then give each other a manicure and pedicure at home.”
