Not All Disabilities Are the Same
Discuss Everything Beforehand
"Every day of our lives is discussed and detailed with our son before ever occurring," writes Anna Christine. (Her son has high-functioning autism.)
Take a Test Run
Increasingly, airports will let families traveling with children with autism visit the airport before a flight, to get used to the experience—which can really make a difference for kids on the spectrum. "Mock boarding" experiences, reports the New York Times, "[allow] them to practice buying tickets, walk through security lines and strap themselves into a plane that never leaves the gate."
Know That You Might Be Judged at the Gate
The "invisible" part of an invisible disability often comes into play when someone questions why your child or family is getting "special" treatment. A woman named Jade tells the story of pre-boarding with her 7-year-old son, who has autism. Another woman on the flight said, "Look at that mother up there with that little blond kid. Who does she think she is? There isn't a thing wrong with that child!"
Always Have Something to Say
The Pacer Center, a resource for parents of kids with disabilities, advises parents to have a simple, positive "just in case" line to say to defuse these kinds of tense situations, where strangers doubt your need for "special treatment." One example: "Our child is wonderful … but as a result of his disability, he has a lot of needs that aren't always obvious. Thanks for your patience."
Carry Evidence
Friendship Circle, a nonprofit organization that supports kids with special needs, suggests parents bring a doctor's note. "Ask your doctor for a letter describing your child's condition especially if your child has an invisible condition such as autism or Tourette's syndrome. Additionally a doctor's letter is a great reinforcer when asking for special accommodations such as an upgrade or change of seats."
Celebrate Your Victories
Travel can be a challenge for families with children, regardless of ability—and each leap forward deserves acknowledgement. As Christine writes, "Every single time he pushes his comfort zone a little further or figures out a new way to expand his schema of the world, we celebrate big."
