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When you give birth, regardless of your birth plan and method of welcoming your baby into the world, you expect certain accolades for a job well done. I mean, pushing a child out of your body or going through a C-section are both miracles, so we kind of all have to give it up for moms who go through that.
In one mom’s TikTok, though, her husband gets praise from the labor and delivery nurses. They can be heard cheering for “Dad” in the video rather than the mom. She seems to look back on the video with laughs now, but at face value, the video is confusing for parents who have seen women bear the brunt of the birthing process. And users in the comments let the mom know that.
A mom shared a delivery video showing the nurses supporting her husband.
@tayla_burke We only noticed this rewatching our videos back because we were so locked it & we both started laughing so hard that almost an 8lb baby was coming out of my 10cm dilated lady parts and dad is getting the credit 😂 In all seriousness, he was delivering our daughter and they were cheering him on it was so cute!! #givingbirth #laboranddelivery #labor #newbornbaby #pregnancytiktok ♬ original sound – Yeyosalazrrr
The mom in the video, Tayla Burke, wrote in text on the screen, “9 entire months of growing & carrying her only to be met with…” Then, the clip shows nurses cheering on her husband in the delivery room. At first, it’s not clear what they are cheering “Dad” on for or why he is the subject of their accolades.
It also left plenty of other moms miffed in the comments. Because Tayla is right in her assessment on the screen of doing all of the heavy lifting and legwork during pregnancy and labor, only for her husband to get called out as a hero. It’s giving ‘wow, look at that dad babysitting his kids.’ And we don’t even need to get into how irksome ‘babysitting’ is when it comes to fathers.
Other moms came with their own responses to the dad getting credit in the delivery room.
Moms commented on Tayla’s post to share how they might have responded to the nurses in the moment, had their partners been applauded during the birth of their kids. I mean, sure, the other parent involved deserves some applause too, but to a lesser extent.
“I would’ve started saying ‘good job monitors, ‘good job pulse ox,’ ‘good job chair in the corner,’ and just looked at the nurses saying ‘oh sorry I thought we were congratulating things in the room doing the bare minimum,’” one user commented.
“‘For what’ would leave my mouth so quick,” another person wrote.
Someone else added, “I’d crash out wdym they’re saying good job dad.”
“Who tf is saying that?” Another TikTok user commented. “I would be making them leave that room immediately.” I mean, that’s fair.
Another woman’s experience with midwives specifically was reminiscent of Tayla’s video, even if only slightly.
She shared, “No [because] these midwives who have an obsession with the dads should be studied. I had two midwives because I was 28h in labour, one of them was the sweetest angel on earth, the other one too, but she was obsessed making sweet eyes to my husband. Like hello, I’m probably in a situation [where] I don’t even know my own name, but I can see that you’re searching for him with your eyes non-stop.”
She cleared up the confusion in the comments.
Tayla did share in the caption what the actual context of the video is, even if it’s still hard for some moms to stomach the dad getting his flowers while Tayla gives birth.
“We only noticed this rewatching our videos back because we were so locked it & we both started laughing so hard that almost an 8lb baby was coming out of my 10cm dilated lady parts and dad is getting the credit,” she wrote. “In all seriousness, he was delivering our daughter and they were cheering him on. It was so cute!!”
Alright then, we can all go and delete our comments now.
But even after some of the women in the comments realized the context of the nurses’ comments to Tayla’s husband, they added that Tayla is still the one who did most of the work.
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