Deciding to have a baby is a big step in life. For many of us, it’s just a matter of when to start a family, because we’ve always known we wanted kids. For some of us (me, included), we go years, even decades, thinking we don’t want kids until one day… we do. But as big and monumental as it is to start a family, how do you know when you’re done? How do you decide that this baby is the last baby?
“I saw my husband holding our second daughter, and I knew that everyone who was supposed to be there, was.” – Kristine
“Ha! When people kept assuming our youngest was our grandson.” – Karen
“I decided at a young age I didn’t want any more after 30, but I was 23 with my last pregnancy and it was such a hard pregnancy. We sat down and looked at our projected income and decided we couldn’t afford anymore, and my husband had a vasectomy.” – Saranna
“I barely survived diapers and the terrible toddler years. Once my son started school, I knew he was it and I wouldn’t be having any more.” – Audra
“I knew I was done after I found out I was having a second, though hubs would likely say it was after we found out about the first. After our daughter, I wanted another one. Maybe if we were younger I would have wanted three, but not any more than that.” – Tina
“I wanted one. We had twins. Now I am overstocked. (Happily though.)” – Lori
“When my youngest was 2 or so, I wanted another, but my marriage and finances were a mess and my pregnancies were all so hard. So my husband got a vasectomy. At this point, it would just be crazy. I’m 45 and my oldest is 24.” – Judy
“I really want one more, but circumstances say no. Since I have done foster care and I may again, it is hard to say when I may decide I’m done.” – Krista
“When I could not imagine a circumstance ± up to and including the death of both of my children — in which I would want another.” – Janet
“It sounds really weird, but after our twins were born we joked about being done, but I remember standing in the shower at the hospital and just ‘knowing’ there was another baby floating out there in the ether. And three years later, when we had our second daughter, I looked into her eyes and knew that was our family and I was done. Besides, I hated being pregnant so much there was not a force in the universe that could force me into it again!” – Axie
“When I ran out of hands to kid-wrangle.” – Kathleen
“I had one and wanted more. I loved being pregnant but couldn’t have another. It still hurts, 16 years later.” – Ericka
“When my doctor discovered, in the middle of a C-section with my third, that I narrowly missed a catastrophic end to my pregnancy. I had dreamed of having more. “ – Leah
“When my youngest was 4, we moved into a new house. I didn’t plug up the outlets, I set plants on the floor, I arranged the knickknacks on shelves, and then I thought how I was ready to leave it all that way. I always wanted four kids, and I had two. As life went on, I became more and more at peace with that.” – Amy
I saw a new baby and thought, 'UGH GROSS. YOU CAN KEEP IT.'
“When, after one miscarriage, then three sons, and then four more miscarriages, we decided we couldn’t go through another loss and we were so grateful for our healthy three. We didn’t know when we were having that conversation that our fourth boy was in utero, having a laugh.” – Lisa
“I never felt done. I decided to take measures not to have any more because I had three quickly and young (at 23, 27, and 29), and I was feeling overwhelmed. I still regret that decision to this very day. I’d have another in a minute!” – Donna
“When I saw a new baby and thought, 'UGH GROSS. YOU CAN KEEP IT.'” – Delilah
“When I was told that if I got pregnant again, I’d likely spend the majority of it in the hospital being monitored and away from my existing babies. That was a big old NOPE.” – Chris
“When I had amniocentesis for one while waiting to hear about potential problems with the one that was already here.” – Treva
“I didn’t want children for a long time. It wasn’t in my life plan. When I got married, I made sure my husband understood that I didn’t want any. Then, one day, the biological clock went off and I felt very differently about it. The hubby and I had a long talk and decided that we would try. After I had her, I didn’t want any more. I got the best kid ever and never felt the need to have a second.” – Sarah
