The first few months with your baby are a whirlwind of things that must be done on a schedule that you feel you have little control over. Helping a friend after they’ve given birth is a gift that may not seem like much to you, but is something not forgotten by most new moms.
COVID may be making it a bit more challenging to help, but don’t let that stop you from jumping in and doing something. And note, you may need to just dive in because new moms are notorious for not knowing what they need or simply not being able to ask for the help.
Food for new moms: Delivering meals and grocery shopping|Food for new moms: Delivering meals and grocery shopping
Emotional support: Friends helping friends
Emotional support is one of the biggest things you can do to help a friend who has just given birth. According to mom of three Kim Delatorre, knowing a friend had her back was critical. “When I had my kids the one thing I needed the most was support,” she told Mom.com. “Just having someone there for me helped me feel like I could do this! A supportive person is something every new and seasoned mommy should have.”
In fact, Prianca Naik, M.D. told Mom.com that some moms are just looking for permission to be themselves. “They need to be told it’s okay not to breastfeed if they do not want to or feel like they cannot.”
Have adult conversations
For many moms, having a baby means the only thing people talk about is the baby. She may feel isolated from the world. Sit down with her and talk about a hobby, work, or how your home remodel is going. Bring her magazines that will provoke conversations about things you know she is interested in.
Give mom time to care for herself
Walk the dog, hold the baby, or take the older kids for a while so that your friend has some time to be alone, take a shower, or trim her toenails. In fact, watch the baby while you indulge mom with a gift certificate to get a pedicure. She’ll love the indulgence and it’s easy enough to do. Whatever you choose to do, don’t wait for mom to ask or give permission. Just do it and know that anything and everything is appreciated.
