When Cheryl, mom of two, noticed that something was different about one of her kids, she felt lost. No one could answer the question “What is going on?” Her child began demonstrating what was deemed as extreme shyness, and perhaps some sort of speech disorder, once he started kindergarten.
That was seven years ago, and since then, Cheryl’s son has been diagnosed with selective mutism
Children with selective mutism can slip through the cracks, going undiagnosed for years
According to Dr. Hafeez, if parents suspect their child could have selective mutism, it’s important to take action. Start with your child’s pediatrician — though they may or may not know about selective mutism. A referral to a psychologist may be in order, so they can assess the child. Find one who understands anxiety and childhood disorders.
What can be done if a child does have selective mutism? Thankfully, there are options. Some children find relief with anxiety medication. This can be paired with therapies, such as play therapy or behavioral therapy. It’s also important that if the child’s diagnosis is interfering with their learning experience, the parents need to contact the school’s administration to begin the process of putting a formal plan in place to ensure the child’s success.
It’s important to note that the child isn’t the only one who needs support
Parents of children with selective mutism need family and friends to be understanding and encouraging. Offering unsolicited advice — such as pushing the parent to discipline the child or bribe them — isn’t helpful. Both the parent and child need acceptance, encouragement, and support.
Cheryl’s son has come a long way since the beginning of his selective mutism journey. He’s now a flourishing middle-schooler who is academically gifted and enjoys trying different extracurricular activities. Thankfully, his parents, the school, and professionals have stepped up to support him.
