Sleepover Basics
Discuss Expectations
Talk about what kinds of activities and events your child can expect at the sleepover. For example, she may not sleep very comfortably if she's on the floor or in a bed that's unfamiliar to her.
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Make It Short
If you know your daughter is nervous about being away for very long, reduce the number of hours she'll be over at her friend's house. Susan Bartell, parenting psychologist and author of "The Top 50 Questions Kids Ask," suggested starting the sleepover on the later side and picking her up early in the morning.
Have a Backup Plan
Let your child know she can call you if she becomes too distressed or even scared in the night, no matter what time it is. "Make sure you discuss where you will be and how they can reach you," Castaldo advised.
Encourage Going to an Adult
Encourage your daughter to check in with the host parent if necessary. The on-site mom or dad can help solve any potential disputes between your child and the other girls or soothe nerves as needed. If she is feeling scared or anxious, your child should know it's OK to let the grown-ups of the house know.
Connection to Home
Packing a few of your child's favorite things smooths out rough spots and keeps that feeling of connection to home. "Pick out familiar things that can provide comfort in your absence," suggested Castaldo. That includes favorite toys, pajamas or a stuffed animal. "You might want to give them a small trinket or something to remind them of you in your absence."
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Talk With the Mom
Keeping the lines of communication open with the mother of your child's friend can head off problems if they arise. "Tell the other mom it is your daughter's first time so she understands and is patient," advised Bartell. You can tell your daughter you did this to ease her mind or, if you think it'll embarrass her, not mention it.
