Kids experience many milestones during their teenage years like learning to drive, going to prom, and graduating high school. In this time of social distancing, teenagers may feel like they’re missing out on so much. As parents, how can we help our teens get through it all?
It’s important to acknowledge that these are unprecedented times. What teens are going through is really hard, Santa Monica clinical psychologist Courtney Karp told Mom.com.
“There’s a lot of grief that everyone is experiencing right now,” she said. Especially for teens that are planning for their next steps after high school. “There’s no doubt about it that they’re suffering and going through a significant loss.”
Missed milestones
Rules of social distancing
As stay-at-home orders continue and schools remain closed, teens may start to resist. Karp advised that the way to get kids to practice good social distancing is to model that behavior for your kids and have a conversation about what is expected.
“There’s always going to the be outliers that test the limits, but my guess is that those kids were testing the limits long before this pandemic,” she said.
Let your teenager know that you have their best interest in mind and the goal is to keep them safe and that you understand that they’re going through a loss of experience and independence.
“I think if they’re understood in that way it can open up a bigger conversation around staying safe right now,” Karp said. Parents can explain to their teen that it’s their job to keep their kids safe. “And to really highlight the importance of that. I think they’ll going to have a much better opportunity to be heard as parents and the child feels heard about how hard it has been.”
If teenagers give parents pushback, here are a few tips to encourage social distancing from Harvard Health.
- Educate teens about the COVID-19 pandemic using reliable sources, like the Centers for Disease Control website.
- If they won’t listen to you, find someone they will listen to — like another trusted adult or your family doctor.
- Help them to connect with people online, if they aren’t already.
- Help them find things to do.
- Talk to their friends’ parents and make sure that everyone is on the same page.
- Set rules and enforce them.
Morais senses that it’s as hard for parents as it is for their teenagers. “I just worry how they’re all going to come out of this.”
