Navigating sex before baby is fairly easy, but sex during pregnancy and in the postpartum phase is a lot trickier. Women should talk to their doctors about what's best and safest for them in terms of a sex-after-baby timeline, but when it is safe, then what? Should women just get right into it? What if they're still recovering but want to feel good, with just themselves or a partner? That's where this handy list comes in.
We found 20 different types of sex toys — from vibrators to dildos to anal plugs —
that can work extremely well for women at different stages of post-pregnancy sexual pleasure. We found toys that could target G-spots, classic toys, and toys that have different sizes and pulse frequencies to adapt to different women's needs and comfortability.
Arc G-Spot Vibrator
Moms who are postpartum and deliver vaginally might have some trouble finding their center of pleasure when it it OK to resume sexual activities. This Arc G-Spot Vibrator is made to literally hit the spot, its arc-shaped to help get deeper in penetration and of course, is long and vibrates. If a vibrator gets to the point, it's this one.
Pom Flexible Vibrator
The Pom hand vibrator is a fan favorite as it's easy to maneuver — flexible in its structure and it bends — and great for targeting the different speed vibrations, mainly in the clitoris area. It's great for moms because it has "five patterns to explore. Its continuous intensity controls allow you to choose your ideal speed, so it’s not just good enough — it’s gratifying."
Tracey Cox Supersex Kegel Toner Set
The vaginal wall has given birth to a human child and it's amazing, but that's a big job. To build up those kegel muscles, which can also help create stronger orgasms, we recommend this kegel exercise set that's made up of "love egg" jiggle balls to get the process started. It also has a cord to make removal easy.
3 Step Luxury Kegel Balls Set
There's no such thing as too many Kegel exercises. This one comes with three different ball sets in three different weights that moms can use to build pelvic floor strength. As LoveHoney says, "use Ami regularly to tone and strengthen your PC muscles and enjoy more intense, easy-to-achieve orgasms from penetrative pleasure."
Jaz Pillow
From pregnancy to postpartum, pillows are so necessary to a mother's comfort as far as her body is concerned. The same goes for sex. The Liberator's Jaz pillow is a way to prop up mamas hips during sex or get into another sex position much more comfortably as she gets used to her postpartum body. It comes in six different colors.
Satisfyer Pro 2 Next Generation
$50
from
Adam & Eve
Giving birth is all about the baby, but when it comes to sex, it's all about the clit, baby. And this Satisfyer Pro 2 Next Generation is good at that. It targets the clitoris with "stimulating puffs of air mimic that the sensations of oral sex." It has 11 different frequency settings to be as gentle, or intense, as you want.
Magic Wand
You can't go wrong with a tried-and-true classic, and that's the Magic Wand vibrator. It's simple to use for moms who want to get back in the pleasure game with themselves or with a partner after giving birth. It has two settings, but reviewers say it's pretty powerful. Keep it mind it is a plug-in wand.
Anal Toy
Vaginal area not yet ready for sex or even masturbation? No problem. Anal play is fun, too, and there are plenty of toys to help facilitate that fun, like this anal plug. It has safe wings to make sure it can be easily removed but is also curved for maximum pleasure in the right spot. It has almost a five-star rating on Amazon.
Elvie Trainer
The Elvie trainer looks adorable, but it means business. It is not so much a vibrator but "an award-winning Kegel trainer for a stronger pelvic floor." What does that have to do with sex? Well, to start, Elvie says "better bladder control, faster postnatal recovery and enhanced intimacy." It is also app-controlled to make the process super smooth.
Advanced Kegel Exerciser
$47
from
Olive Tips
The Advanced Kegel Exerciser is another option when it comes to conditioning the pelvic floor for sexy time, with or without a partner after having a baby. It's a double-sided Kegel ball wand that comes with a remote control so it can be worked at any time, doing any thing. It has 16 different vibration modes for any mama's Kegel level.
Squish
$99
from
Unbound Babes
It can't really sound more gentle than a vibe named Squish but that's the idea while still delivering pleasure to its user. It's totally customizable to fit mom's needs. According to Unbound Babes, "the harder you squeeze, the stronger the vibration. Squish even lets you compose and replay customizable vibration patterns so every use feels fresh."
Pogo
$36
from
Unbound Babes
The Pogo is a stick, but not a pogo stick, it's a Pogo dildo, with a curve-shaped shaft and smooth texture all over. It has almost an average 5-star rating from over 200 people. According to Unbound Babes, the "Pogo is compatible with most harnesses" for couples' play in addition to solo play — vaginal or anal, depending on what mom wants.
Shimmy
$59
from
Unbound Babes
Moms may not be shimmying, but their anal plugs can, and the Shimmy is an anal plug that vibrates. It has an easily insertable shaft that has a looped base for safe entry and easy exit. According to Unbound Babes, "the smooth silicone surface and circular handle make Shimmy a breeze to enjoy whether solo or with a partner."
Bender
$69
from
Unbound Babes
Then, there is the Bender toy, and toy is a misleading word as the Bender is more of a versatile tool, just as the name implies. The thing we like about this one is that it's flexibility allows women to use it exactly in the way they want to, however it feels best, especially when their bodies have been through birth. It's quiet and vibrates, too.
Crave Vesper Vibrator Necklace
This tiny vibrator can be worn as a necklace, but we like it for postpartum moms as it's tiny and precise to give them the pleasure they deserve without too much pressure on their recovering vaginas. It's a highly rated vibe that's made from stainless steel and is nickel-free for those with sensitivities. According to Amazon, "it has four control settings: low, med, high, and pulsing."
Lovelife Rev Finger Vibrator
After healing from having a baby, when it is safe to get to it, women should get exactly what they want, and this finger vibe can make that happen. This one can be used to touch any part of the body: the clit, anus, or breasts. It has an ergonomic design and "one single large button controls the seven preset pulsations."
H2O Vibe Vibrator With Shower Connection
Shower sex is great. So is masturbation. And either of those things in the shower just makes it so much better and possible more comfortable for moms who recently gave birth. It's doable with the H2O Vibe Vibrator, which has a shower connection. It has three speeds: just "simply connect with a shower's water hose and enjoy clitoral stimulation from the constant stream of water."
Ohnut Set
The Ohnut sex toy set looks like actual kids toys or some sort of modern home decor item, but it's actually an adjustable dildo. In its own words, "Ohnut is a simple and convenient way to adjust when penetration feels too deep (eep!). Made of 4 interlocking rings, you can customize the depth — without sacrificing sensation."
Silicone Dilator Set
$15
from
Intimate Rose
It can take time to adjust to items in the vagina during the postpartum period. This dilator set is great for mamas to work their way up to bigger sized sex toys comfortably and safely, at their own pace. It can be used alone or with a partner. It comes with eight different sized dildos for each level of pleasure.
Kurve G-Spot Vibrator
$121
from
Hot Octopus
For the mamas ready to get down and have some fun, this G-spot vibrator will hit the spot and it's a great option for them. The Hot Octopus toy is called Kurve for a reason: to hit exactly the right spot. But its smooth exterior minimizes pain and increases ease of use. As far as vibrations, "try switching between intense high-frequency Treble waves and deep rumbly Bass vibrations."
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