Growing up I always strived to have a lot of friends. I mean, friends are great, right? The more the better! I guess I equated having lots of friends with being popular, and what does a 14-year-old girl wish for, if not popularity?
I’m happy to report that my friendship goals have matured with age right along with my taste buds and my waistline. I found a small group of peeps who "got me."
I realized that the phrase “quality over quantity” applies to friendships as well as a good pair of jeans
They don’t support your life choices
4. They don't support your life choices. True, friends will disagree. True, friends will challenge one another to make the other better. But if you spend time with someone who is constantly tearing down your spouse, your workout routine, your diet, your parenting, or any other items from the long list of personal choices, they do not have your back.
5. They make you feel guilty.
“You never come out with us anymore” is something a friend may say to make you feel guilty for not wanting to hang out. Here’s the thing: If you are a mom, you probably don’t have the childcare to do frequent happy hour with the girls. If you are a mom, you likely take forever to return calls or forget to answer texts. If you are a mom, you put your family first and that means that friendships hang out on the back burner pretty frequently. And if you are a true friend … you get that. Anything but supporting the fact that family comes first should not be tolerated.
Now don’t be all drama about this. You don’t have to have a big “unfriending” party or falling out
Simply start by distancing yourself from them. Don’t go out of your way to hang out, and when you are together, keep your cards close.
Make time for the people who are important to you. After all, whittling down your connections to only the most amazing friendships that feed your soul is supposed to do just that.
