One of my divorced friends met someone after being in the dating scene for about four years. A few months after they started seeing each other, he had a get-together at his house and one of his friends came over and brought his sister.
She told me that as the sister and her man were chatting, she became increasingly uncomfortable. “There was something about their chemistry I didn’t like, and he didn’t introduce me to her for about two hours.”
At first she chalked it up to the two of them being busy and doing their own thing — she had invited two of her girlfriends and they were talking in the corner. But then she saw the woman touching and squeezing her boyfriend’s arm.
“It was obvious she was hitting on him”
No, it’s your job to manage that
And if you have a partner who sees it and steps in, it’s up to you to stick up for yourself and not let things get out of hand. There are times they might not notice, or might not be there.
If your husband or boyfriend is going to stand there and not do anything about a woman who’s hitting on them when you're standing right there, what would they do when you aren’t there?
I get that it may be uncomfortable to say something, but they don’t have to be mean about it. They can just say, “Oh, my girlfriend likes that place,” or “My girlfriend has a necklace like that,” just something to let them know they aren’t free tonight, tomorrow, or next week.
Making you feel comfortable and secure should be in the forefront of your partner's mind — not worrying about if they are going to hurt someone else’s feelings. When that happens, they're sacrificing their comfort level for your trust and, really, that’s not OK.
