“It just happened,” he said. “I don’t know how, but it just happened.”
Those were the sentences that followed my ex-husband’s confession of his month-long affair.
I found out later that it didn’t “just happen.” The woman he decided to have sex with — in our family vehicle, on a night he was supposed to be with me, celebrating my birthday — didn’t “just happen.”
They were both consenting adults
But stop saying it 'just happens'
Falling on ice "just happens." Tripping up the stairs "just happens." Your child putting 10 boxes of laxatives in the grocery cart while you aren’t looking "just happens."
Get it right and own the fact you knew what you were doing. It’s an insult to your partner to say you had no control and didn’t know what you were doing. That’s a cop-out. It’s a poor excuse that takes away all your responsibility — and you know it.
You know what also didn't "just happen"? Making a lifelong commitment to your partner and family. At least they deserve the truth.
