There is an unending list of things they tell you that will change once you’re a mom. You sleep less, and downtime becomes nonexistent. But why didn’t anyone talk about the changes to our sex life? No, we’re not talking about how frequently you do the deed. We’re talking about the reasons for painful sex.
If you’re among the 75% of women asking yourself, “Why does sex hurt all of a sudden,” or why sex is painful, you aren’t alone. We’ll cover why painful sex happens, what is dyspareunia and pelvic floor dysfunction, and when you should see your provider for treatment.
Why painful sex happens
When to see a doctor to treat painful sex
The good news is if you are experiencing painful sex due to PFD, there are a few things you can do to strengthen your pelvic floor and keep it healthy. Yes, we’re talking Kegels.
“Performing exercises to strengthen the pelvic floor, abdomen, and hip muscles keep the pelvic floor muscles strong and healthy,” Dr. Olson advised. “To do this, it is important to coordinate the breathing pattern with the pelvic floor for optimal outcomes. Inhale and relax, exhale gently, and simultaneously imagine shutting off the flow of urine. Hold the kegel while exhaling for 3-5 seconds, then relax. Repeat 10 times, 3-4 times per day.”
Sometimes, regardless of the amount of Kegels you do, sex will still be painful. Dr. Olson recommends discussing any pain or symptoms with your doctor immediately. They may conduct tests, a pelvic exam, or refer you to a pelvic physical therapist.
