What to Know
Suffering a miscarriage is something that no one should ever have to experience, but unfortunately, they’re very common — according to the National Institute of Health (NIH), it happens in about 15-20% of recognized pregnancies.
It can be even harder to return to work and your regular routine after going through something as world shaking as a miscarriage, and that was never made more clear than it is in this TikTok video that’s going viral. One mom received some seriously inappropriate comments from a coworker about her pregnancy loss, and the internet is just about ready to throw hands over it.
It all started when she had a meeting with a consultant she was working with.
@jayteabs People are the worst. I’m going back to bed. #customerservice #crashout #hr #nothanks #miscarriage ♬ original sound – Jayteabs
This coworker was someone who she’d spoken with about going on maternity leave in April in the past, but two weeks before she took the call, she’d lost her baby. That meant that when the consultant asked her who would be taking over for her while she was out on maternity leave, she had to break the news that she wouldn’t be taking one after all.
But from there, it only got worse. According to the OP, the woman (who is called Melissa in the video) replied, “At least you still have your two daughters.”
And just when you think Melissa couldn’t possibly make the situation any worse, she totally did when she added, “you don’t want to get greedy.”
Fortunately, her company had her back.
The OP didn’t exactly have a kind reaction to Melissa’s comments — but honestly, would anyone? After calling Melissa a b—-, she exited the meeting… and fortunately, she was able to walk away from the situation unscathed, though she couldn’t say the same for the consultant.
In a follow up video, she said that Melissa had been fired by the company, and instead of reflecting on what she said and why it was wrong, Melissa let her former coworkers know that she blamed the OP for her losing her job.
Yeah, that sounds about right.
The comments were filled with messages from way too many moms who had experienced something similar.
“A customer said to me ‘You must have stressed yourself out too much because god doesn’t make mistakes. He wouldn’t have taken your baby.’ I walked away so I didn’t hit an old lady,” one commenter wrote.
Another horror story from the comments: “When I experienced my miscarriage which was my first pregnancy my coworker said ‘well you’re young you can make another one.'”
Do people seriously hear themselves when they talk?!
In the end, the mom shared her best advice for helping someone out who has lost a baby: Keep it simple, think about what you would want them to do for you if you were in their shoes, and don’t try to say the right thing (because there is no right thing). It really is as simple as that.
