
A mom-to-be wanted to find out the sex of her baby in an “intimate” and special way. To help bring her vision to life, she contacted a bakery about the “cute little surprise” she wanted. The bakery knew that the mom-to-be and her boyfriend were ordering a custom cake for a gender reveal and that they wanted what was on the inside of the cake to be a surprise.
She gave the bakery a sealed envelope that contained the results that revealed whether she’s having a boy or a girl. But she says the bakery ruined the surprise by leaving a voicemail about what was inside the custom cake.
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The mom-to-be told the bakery to use red fruit for a girl or blue fruit for a boy.
On TikTok, the mom-to-be, who goes by @morbidmama7 on the platform, shared several videos about the gender reveal fail. She explained in one video that she asked the bakery to use strawberries, raspberries, or another red fruit for a girl, or blueberries, blackberries, or another darker fruit for a boy.
The request was not an unusual one for the bakery. The woman and her boyfriend specifically chose to go to an organic bakery that sells smoothies, fresh fruit cakes, and fruit pies.Β
The bakery assured her that it was happy to make a gender reveal cake.
When the mom-to-be and her boyfriend started ordering their custom cake at the bakery, the person working there at the time assured the couple that the bakery was happy to make a cake for their baby’s gender reveal. Given that they gave the bakery a sealed envelope with the results revealing their baby’s sex, the bakery knew that the gender reveal was meant to be a secret, the mom-to-be explained.
“They wrote in the notes, and they told me that they wrote this in the notes, ‘it’s a gender reveal. The customer does not want to know what’s on the inside of the cake,'” the mom-to-be said in a video.
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The cake did not reveal the baby's sex β a voicemail did.
The couple was excited to learn their baby’s sex by cutting into the cake and seeing which fruit was inside β but that’s not what ended up happening. Instead, the mom-to-be learned the sex of her baby when she received a voicemail from a cake decorator at the bakery, which she did not name in her videos.
In one video shared on TikTok, the mom-to-be shared the voicemail she received from the bakery. The message said: “Please give me a call regarding your order. You ordered a single lemon with blackberry and we don’t have blackberry filling.” At the end of the voicemail, the baker explained how the type of cake the mom-to-be ordered could be an issue for a “gender reveal.” “We need to talk about the cake,” the voicemail said.
The mom-to-be said she was 'crying all morning' because of the gender reveal mishap.
“Listen to this voicemail I got from the bakery COMPLETELY RUINING MY GENDER REVEAL,” the mom-to-be wrote over the video. In the caption, she explained why the voicemail gender reveal was so upsetting for her.
“Imagine paying $$, walking into the bakery with a sealed envelope from a doctor, currating a whole special, intimate moment with you & your partner… just to have some random, careless woman ruin it with a single voicemail… thaaaanks… if my eyes are red it’s cause I’ve been crying all morning,” she wrote.Β
The mom-to-be attributed the error to 'carelessness.'
Some people felt sorry for the woman. The mom-to-be believes that the cake decorator’s “carelessness” ruined her gender reveal.
After hearing the full story, some people agreed with this assessment and said they would be upset, too.
“This is so valid especially because you never said it had to be blackberries!!” one person wrote on TikTok. “Iβm sorry this happened :(.”
Another person wrote, “I would be sobbing I’m so sorry.”
Others thought she was overreacting.
Some people understood why the mom-to-be was so upset about the gender reveal gone wrong. But others didn’t think the mistake was a huge deal in the grand scheme of things.
“π€£π is it that serious⦔ one person commented.
Another wrote, “Ngl, I dont think the baker is paid enough to care about this.”
Another person sarcastically commented, “βTHE BAKERY F—ED UP MY FETAL GENITAL PARTY,β after the viral video was shared on X.
Some people who heard the story even blamed the mom-to-be for ordering the cake herself instead of choosing someone else to be a “gender keeper,” a person entrusted with keeping the baby’s sex a secret from the parents until a gender reveal.
“Usually a family member or friend is responsible for contacting the bakery so this oneβs on you,” one person commented.
Because the mom-to-be ordered her own cake, some TikTok users thought the whole thing was an honest mistake. “I worked at a bakery for 6 years and not once did a mom bring her gender,” another person wrote. “It was typically a friend.”
The mom-to-be said she had never heard of the term 'gender keeper' before.
When asked why she didn’t have a “gender keeper,” the mom-to-be said the term “gender keeper” is new to her.
However, she did have reasons for doing the gender reveal all on her own: her friends “are the biggest gossips” and her family members don’t live nearby.
Other people who wanted to keep their gender reveals intimate could relate to her decision, but some of them also dealt with people mistakenly revealing their baby’s sex to them prior to the actual reveal.
One person explained the bakery revealed their baby’s sex to them when they went to pick up their cake. The person shared: “I asked the lady to remove any receipts enclosing the details and she said oh yeah thereβs strawberries in it! I cried!!!”