A dad wanted to take his daughter to Disneyland for spring break, but the girl’s mom says she’s not having it. The Disney vacation was meant to be a surprise for their daughter, and initially the mom was excited about the idea. However, she was shocked when she later found out that her former partner didn’t plan on inviting their daughter’s five half siblings.
The mom was looking forward to taking her daughter shopping prior to the vacation.
One day, the dad told his former partner, who goes by @mama.courtneyy_ on TikTok, that he wanted to take their daughter to Disneyland for five days. At first, the mom thought the plan sounded “awesome.” When she first heard about her ex’s vacation plans, she was excited to buy a couple of new outfits and a new bathing suit for their daughter, she said in a video shared on TikTok.
But then she asked her ex if he planned on inviting their daughter’s half siblings.
In the video, the mom explained that their daughter has five other siblings, but they are not biologically related to her ex-partner. She felt the need to clarify, thinking that her daughter’s half siblings should also be invited on the trip.
“Everybody else is invited too, right?” she asked her ex. When she asked him this question, he seemed surprised and reportedly said, “No, those aren’t my kids.”
This seemed to offend the mom.
The dad’s comment seemed to leave Courtney feeling flabbergasted. “We were together for years,” she said of her ex. “You were their stepfather. You’re going to take your daughter to Disneyland and not take her siblings?” The mom went on to say that her daughter is “not going” on the vacation because her siblings would be extremely upset. “If they can’t go, she’s not going. Period,” the mom wrote over her video.
In the comments, many people sided with the dad.
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Many people who watched the video urged the mom to let her daughter go on the trip. They said not letting her go was not fair to her.
“Her siblings do not need to do everything she does,” one person commented. “They need to learn that she can do stuff with her friends/her dad and they just simply can’t.”
A second person accused the mom of acting “very selfish.” “Your daughter shouldn’t miss out and as harsh as it is, he isn’t responsible for your other kids,” they wrote.
A third person thought that caring for his daughter’s siblings is not the dad’s responsibility. Instead, the dad is responsible for providing “love and care for” his daughter, the commenter explained. The person added that it’s “wrong” to not let the dad do this just “because of the failures of the other dads.”
If the other kids want to go to Disneyland, maybe their dads should pay, some suggested.
The majority of people who responded to the mom’s video said the dad is under no obligation to take her other children to Disneyland. After all, that would be a lot of extra work and money. One person told the mom that her ex doesn’t “owe” her money, and therefore doesn’t have to fund a Disney vacation for her five other kids. Another person asked, “Why are the other kids’ dads not taking them to Disneyland?”
She could also take her other kids to Disneyland, or cover the expenses herself, some suggested.
“Disney is expensive, his financial responsibility extends to her only,” one person wrote. “Can you take the other kids while she’s away with her dad?”
