If my son becomes a dad someday, I will be there for him and his future partner in whatever way they want and none of the ways that irk them. There is nothing I want less than to be that mother-in-law that does too much in the worst way. And I think I might take a cue from a mother-in-law on TikTok about what not to do as a new grandma someday.
In the video, she cuddles with her adult son as his wife is nine centimeters dilated and ready to give birth in a hospital room. I mean, I get it to an extent. Her baby is having a baby, it’s important for her to be there for her son. OK, fine.
But for her to slip under a blanket and snuggle up to her son while her daughter-in-law is in active labor is just a huge red flag, and the internet agrees.
The mom cuddled with her son while her daughter-in-law was in labor.
@kayleehfair I wish I was joking 😅
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The video was posted by the daughter-in-law, whose name is Kaylee Fair. She wrote on a picture of herself, her husband, and their baby, “Late night finds, but it’s a video of my mother-in-law cuddling my husband while I’m 9 cm dilated.” The TikTok then cuts to a shot of Kaylee’s mother-in-law squeezed into a hospital chair with her husband.
“The way I would have asked my nurse to call security and have them escorted out,” someone commented on Kaylee’s video.
Another user wrote, “The amount of people who think it’s normal for a mother to wrap herself around her grown son all need immediate intervention.”
One husband commented, “I fell asleep when my wife was in labor and my Mom came into the room and slapped me awake.”
Kaylee posted a ‘story time’ to explain some of the backstory of what happened.
Apparently, this was not an isolated incident for off behavior from her mother-in-law. She says that afterward, her husband had a conversation with his mom to “set very definite boundaries.”
Since the video is from seven years ago, though, Kaylee doesn’t mind speaking on it now. She responded to a comment to say that her mother-in-law also lied about having cancer at one point.
“After losing somebody incredibly close to me to cancer, it was a deal breaker,” she wrote.
Kaylee also explains in her follow-up video with the explanation of what happened that her husband is a “very deep sleeper.” He didn’t feel his mom climb onto the chair to cuddle with him while he slept.
Even though it was a major red flag for Kaylee to see her mother-in-law do that, it was one of a handful of other things her in-laws did at the time to drive a wedge between themselves and Kaylee.
At the end of the video, Kaylee says, “Don’t think that any of this is his fault, when it’s quite frankly my mother-in-law’s fault.”
