The foundation of good birth support isn’t advocacy or information; it’s sensitivity and presence, two things hard won in our current world. Watching thousands of families prepare for birth, I see how much you want to know and how much of that knowledge goes out the window when the excitement and stress of labor arrive.
Before you get nervous, rest assured that you are capable of supporting a loved one in labor
Your role is simple: Bring your awareness solely to the needs of the laboring woman without distraction
If she’s cold, make her warm; if she’s working hard, give her water; if she’s panting, help her breathe slowly.
Assuming some responsibility for birth preparation will increase mama’s trust, thereby increasing oxytocin, the on-switch for labor. Try to predict her needs before she is even aware of them and plan for your own needs, like food, a change of clothing, and your own hydration.
The upcoming pages will guide you through thoughtfully packing your toolkit for birth. Page by page, you will learn how to use these effective support tools, many of which you probably already own. On page 140, you will find a simple packing list for your birth support toolkit.
Thorough support includes more than just objects and thoughtful gestures
Support includes the most foundational elements of a healthy labor: hydration and breathing. I’ll teach you my foolproof breathing exercises for labor and the importance of a water bottle. Additionally, you will learn how to use the tone of mama’s voice to reduce adrenaline, the oldest trick in the book.
Remember: All you need is your hands, your heart, and a few simple skills to provide hours of comfort in labor.
