There are few parenting experiences as universal as the dreaded toddler tantrum. But have you ever thought to define the type of tantrum your toddler is having?
Defining the type of tantrum you’re dealing with might help you better manage it.
Tantrums can take many forms, including crying, yelling, pouting, flopping on the floor, and even hitting or biting. However, taking a closer look at why they are happening and what form they are taking can help parents get through them.
Here’s how to define tantrums and approach them by type.
Why do toddlers have tantrums?
What to do when a toddler has a tantrum
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The first thing to do when your child is having a tantrum is to make sure they are physically safe. Some kids might try to run away, or flop to the floor to kick and scream. Making sure they can’t hurt themselves or someone else is key.
Your goal is to help your child calm down while realizing that they probably can’t be reasoned with while they are dealing with their big feelings. Some parents find that ignoring a tantrum can be helpful, while other parents may want to try to help their child by suggesting some deep breathing or using distraction to break the tantrum cycle.
What you don’t want to do during a tantrum is to invalidate your child’s feelings — they might not be reasonable to an adult, but their feelings are very real to them.
You’ll also want to avoid taking the tantrum personally and responding with your own anger. Someone has to keep their cool in the moment, and it isn’t going to be your toddler!
How to prevent tantrums
There is no way to prevent all toddler tantrums. But you might be able to keep them to a minimum by helping your child feel more in control of their world. This can take the form of following a consistent daily routine or giving them choices for things like clothing or snacks when you can. You can also try to avoid triggers like missed naps, hungry kids, or overstimulation.
The most important thing to remember is that all tantrums eventually end, and your toddler should be back to their normal self sooner than you think. In the meantime, define the tantrum to help you understand it and keep your calm through the tantrum to show your toddler they are safe and loved.
