Trying to decide if you should add one more to your brood? Pros and cons lists and conversations are great, but sometimes your own actions reveal your true feelings best. So if any of these thought processes apply to you, your baby-making days might be behind you.
First trimester
Third trimester
You tell your husband you'd very much like it if he took care of business, as it were, because you never want to do this again, and it is only fair, after all (actually, not even really approaching fair, but let's not quibble over details.) He suggests that you wait until the baby is born first before you do it and you agree.
End of third trimester
You and your pregnant friends discuss how having a C-section might not be that bad because then you could just get your tubes tied while the hood is popped.
During labor
You ask your obstetrician if she can recommend any urologists. She does not seem remotely surprised by this question.
First week home with new baby
A friend tells you her husband got a vasectomy. You carefully write down the name of the doctor.
Month 2 with new baby
You think to yourself, "This is actually pretty great." The baby is adorable and sweet and sleeps a lot. You feel like you kind of know what you're doing. You're on maternity leave and it's the summertime and you're so happy not to be pregnant anymore that you even are enjoying your sweaty, flabby, bleeding body. You wonder, "What if we had a third?" Your husband even says "It's up to you." You get angry at him because he's supposed to say "I think we're done."
15 minutes later...
Then you remember that you will have to have three car seats, and that you will be pretty close to 40 if you have another baby, and that is three college tuitions, and it would still be nice to afford an occasional vacation, and that if this were the olden days you'd be dead by now of preeclampsia and who knows if the third baby would be some nightmare child and don't forget that YOU HATED BEING PREGNANT.
