“Good sex” looks different for everyone, but there are some things that can improve intimacy significantly. If you’re looking to improve your sex life, it’s important to focus on your partner and yourself, and let go of any expectations you might have from books, movies, or pornography. Open communication goes a long way when it comes to intimacy, so don’t be afraid to be honest about what works for you (and what doesn’t).
On Reddit, someone asked, “What improves sex by 1000%?,” and people didn’t hold back in their responses. The suggestions fall into four primary categories: self-care, partnership and communication, foreplay, and tools/toys.
A good self-care routine:
“Good hygiene.” –vonov129
“A good night’s sleep.” –CommunicationTime265
“Cardio, if you can’t run for 20 minutes good luck f*cking for 20 minutes.” –lushlanes
“Hydration! Drink more water people!” –Legani
“Physical fitness. Most of what other people listed is more important, but being fit and healthy makes things so much better.” –Alternative6385
A close partnership:
“Having a partner who finds you very attractive. The best sex i have had is with women who were obsessed with me in a good way.” –Interesting-Click-12
“Actually loving the person you’re having it with.” –Endurlay
“Intimacy. Comfort. You can have sex with 100 strangers and it will be mediocre at best. You can have sex 100 times with the same person and love every second of it. That’s just my opinion I guess. The thought of having to meet someone and go through the “awkward sex” stage again is terrifying to me. I know what I like. I know what my partner likes. I wouldn’t trade it for anything.” –xkrazyxcourtneyx
“Genuinely caring about the person you’re doing it with.” –TheNOCOYeti
Good foreplay:
“There was one time I was super sore from work and asked my husband for a massage, nothing else intended. He did a great job and I was super relaxed and the massage ended up being the foreplay. Then it was slow, relaxed, and borderline sleepy sex and was definitely 1000% better than any other sex we’ve ever had. Lowkey gonna ask him to do that again. It’s been a while…” –v-v_ToT
“Intimacy and foreplay outside of the bed.” –tytylercochan123
“Foreplay throughout the day before you even get to the bedroom (talking, texts, random touches, etc).” –RecordCompetitive758
Tools/toys:
“Both people being enthusiastic about using a vibrator.” –puppleups
“Boner pills.” –Franklinricard
“Sex toys.” –No_Inevitable5627
“I always talked shit about those blue pills. Now I’m like, have you tried them though? Lmao.” –spidersilva09
