When it comes to love and sex, everyone’s preferences are different. It’s impossible to know for sure how sexually compatible you might be with someone, but sometimes there are signs you can pick up on before actually getting intimate. For example, sexual chemistry, mutual respect, and solid communication are all helpful when it comes to hooking up. And while it might be hard to know how *good* someone is in bed, there are definitely some red flags that might indicate they’re *bad* in bed.
Someone took to Reddit to ask women, “What are signs someone is bad in bed that can be spotted without sleeping with them?” and people really didn’t hold back with their answers:
“I went on a first date with a guy that prefaced he hadn’t slept with anyone for two years and was ‘in need,’ then proceeded to talk about himself for the rest of the night, AND!!! He ordered chicken wings and left half the meat on the bones! If that’s how he eats chicken wings, I can’t imagine how he’d eat anything else.” –KiriDomo
“If they never ask about you / how you feel… if they don’t do that they certainly don’t care how they make you feel in bed.” –randombeing222
“If they can’t shut up about how good they are, how many people they slept with, how every ex is still obsessed with them, how ‘naughty’ they are (in inappropriate settings), the sex will 100% suck no matter the gender of the person. Bonus if they mention their penis unprompted.” –the_V33
“If he votes for anti-women policies — he can’t ****, guaranteed!” –Individual-Mud262
“People who have no spacial awareness, who run into stuff a lot or just move their limbs around awkwardly and push stuff of tables and shelves, even though they JUST placed it there. Obviously anecdotal evidence, but in my experience these people end up accidentially elbowing me in the face or kneel on my thigh or manhandle me in a way that bangs my head against a wall, usually hard enough that sex has to end at that point because I’m in too much pain. Ended up with a broken nose once and a concussion another time.” –SableMedea
“This guy was telling how every women he slept with had vaginal problems… Yeah dude, the common denominator is you.” –Puck-achu
“Heavy drinkers. I have never encountered a heavy drinker that was an attentive lover.” –aint_this_something
“Bragging about being good in bed is usually an indication that they are bad in bed lol.” –jollygreenmidget1
“Lack of a sense of humor. Bad kissing. Picky ‘eewwww’ eaters.” –SapioCertain
“People who try to make the conversation too sexual too fast. Especially if you’ve only just met or the other person isn’t really reciprocating. To me that indicates a lack of awareness or care for someone else’s boundaries, and a feeling like they don’t need to establish trust to have intimacy.” –kattieface
“My worst sexual partners were always the cockiest ones, full of themselves and arrogant.” –Lilah_Vale
“When a minor inconvenience enrages them. Men who are quick to anger are always terrible in bed — they cannot just roll with what is happening and adjust accordingly.” –TheNightWitch
“I feel like picky eaters usually suck at sex… Freaks will eat anything if you know what I mean.” –Calm-Moment0
“If they always talk about sex. They’re horrible in bed. Sex jokes. Everything is sexual. Non sexual objects are now sexual. Everything is about sex. This goes for women too. You’re bad in bed.” –ttaradise
“Driving. I don’t know if it’s true for others, but for me, if someone is a bad driver it almost always means a bad time in bed. It shows me if they are aware of and pay attention to their surroundings, overly passive or aggressive, reckless, get frustrated easily, can navigate smoothly and confidently or need to stick to their map.” –almostamybaby
“If they can’t dance (have no rhythm). If they are messy eaters or just gross table manners. If they’re only interested in themselves.” –123curious1
“If they’re selfish in the day to day it’s probably gonna carry over into the bedroom. My husband is incredibly giving and kind in his daily life and he is an 11/10 in bed. People that want to take care of you want to take care of you in all aspects.” –JanetSnakehole610
“Dirty fingernails. Or poorly manicured fingernails.” –Own_Mention9372
“Conservatives, alcoholics, guys with oversized trucks for no absolute reason.” –Budget_Kiwi_513
“The dull ones with no personality beyond work and gym think that harder = better.” –imasugarpacket
“If you are not attracted to each other. It doesn’t exist as a skill. If there is mutual chemistry it will be good, if not it will be bad. It’s simple, it’s just about genuine love and chemistry.” –Objective_Ad_6265
“Lack of rhythm. Toss on some music. Can he tap along to the beat? If not he won’t have rhythm in bed either.” –aamnipotent
