If you're in a loving relationship, there should be a certain level of trust, right? Hopefully, that's true. Do you feel the need to know every detail about your partner? Do you need to know everything your partner is doing every minute of the day, or is the thought of that just exhausting?
A TikTok couple shared what they say people think are some controversial rules they have for their marriage that they themselves didn't realize were controversial at all. And, boy, does the internet have thoughts.
The couple is active on social media.
The married couple, using the handle @jadenandandy on TikTok, has an active online presence and a pretty decent TikTok following with 126,500 people. That's a lot of people potentially offering all kinds of opinions about Jaden and Andy's life.
The pair are both teachers, and Andy also coaches. They share a good amount of information about their life, particularly their marriage, and that last topic has people talking.
Should a marriage have rules?
Jaden and Andy believe that a marriage should follow what almost sounds like a code of ethics in order to work. The couple has several videos with more than a million views, but one, in particular, is sparking a lot of reaction.
The video has more than 7 million views and reveals this: "Controversial things about our marriage that we didn't know were controversial."
Their rules for each other are pretty extreme, according to some.
First, let's outline the couple's expectations for each other. One, they share their location on Life 360. OK, this one makes sense to many people as it could be a potential safety issue if something were to go wrong.
Two, they share all passwords and have no secrets. People agree you should share passwords in case of an emergency and a partner needs access to the other's technology. The no secrets thing, however, resonated with some people but not all. No, they weren't saying that you should keep it a secret if you commit a crime or lose all your money gambling, but do you have to tell your partner that you had an iced coffee today? People wondered.
Three, they don't hang out with people of a different gender alone. This seems pretty extreme to a lot of TikTok users. People wonder what the other person thinks is going to happen. Is there a history of cheating? Is one of them a serial flirt? Does someone have a sex addiction? There are so many questions.
Is there too much sharing in this marriage? People have opinions.
TikTok followers had a lot to say about the couple's lifestyle, and thoughts were mixed.
One user shared that they and their spouse are mature adults who don't need this type of monitoring. "We trust each other so we don't have rules for behavior like we're children. wouldn't have gotten married otherwise," the person commented.
The most confusing thing to the TikTok community was the part about hanging out with different genders.
"The first two are just good ideas. The only one that seems odd to me is the last one," someone wrote.
Others had thoughts about how strong Jaden and Andy's marriage really is.
"Its always the people that have zero trust in their partner that talk about how great their marriage is," the comment read.
Some TikTokers agreed that these things work for them too.
"We have the same rules. it's not a trust issue, it's a safety and respect issue in terms of location and no opposite gender friends," one person explained.
And then, someone explained that if you have nothing to hide, it shouldn't be a big deal. "I never check my husband's phone. we just know we can trust each other. Also I keep everything logged in on my phone so there's no issue," the person commented.
Jaden and Andy's TikTok is definitely entertaining.
The couple's TikTok account isn't actually centered on their marriage rules and keeping track of one another at all times. They share lots of funny content as well. They laugh at themselves and each other and appear to have a very healthy relationship.
People probably need to relax and mind their own business. Who are we to judge what works for a couple's marriage? If they're happy and love one another, that's great. That said, when you put it out for the world to see, you have to be ready for what people might say.
