Losing your virginity can come with a lot of expectations — excitement, trepidation, intimacy, even love. We think a lot about what the experience is like for the partner who is having sex for the first time, but we don’t often talk about the experience for the other partner. Women who have had sex with virgins turned to Reddit to discuss what it was like for them, and their experiences ranged from terrible to fantastic. Here’s what they had to say:
I had no idea.
“He didn’t tell me til afterwards but tbh I had no idea. I felt bad cause I wish he would’ve told me. I would’ve tried to make it more special. We were both younger so it wasn’t super shocking but he’d had girlfriends before so I didn’t know.” –PsychoticAria
He needed a lot of reassurance.
“He came as soon as his penis touched me. That was something. I spent a lot of time reassuring him that this was natural.” –Doucevie
It was the first time for both of us.
“I have only had one sexual partner (my first boyfriend) and it was the first time for both of us. Surprisingly, it was really great!
He was sweet, attentive and we had amazing chemistry. He was really nervous, so I just told him “Lay down, sit still and enjoy. Let me handle this” 🤣” –TheCoolBlondeGirl
He focused on my pleasure.
“I didn’t know until after we had gotten intimate. He was a really good friend of mine, and it sort of just happened over the course of an evening hanging out. For a first timer, he was surprisingly good! Great rhythm, very gentle, asked for consent before changing positions or trying something, focused on my pleasure the entire time. I couldn’t believe it at the time. Proceeded to happen half a dozen times that weekend, and he got better each time, like some sort of superpower.” –Liarliar_handsonfire
We’re engaged now.
“He was a smidge awkward. He had told me he didn’t have much experience and I could tell.
But he was super sweet, in and out of bed. He was fun to be with and so smart and always considerate. Just about 3 years later we are engaged and incredibly happy 😁 ” –wakatea
He was very humble about his lack of experience.
“good. he was very… humble? in a good way. overall he seemed genuinely curious about what did it for me/invested in my pleasure in a way that made the whole thing fun/hot.” –Single-Tangelo-1775
Each time it’s been a good experience.
“I’ve only had sex with virgins. My friends practically call me the sex prof. I’ve had mixed experiences. One tried to act as if he’s had sex before. One struggled with the cardio, another had trouble cumming because he was nervous and the other was good but didn’t know what to do.
All good experiences tbh. I recommend the girl to start on top (it being her first time or not).” –steakcookest
It was short and awkward.
“I didn’t count it as I had more action from a tampon than that entire awkward experience. But from the looks of the comments I just drew the short stick lol.” –AltruisticSecond_
He was ready to go again right after.
“I was in a fwb kinda thing with someone who was a virgin when we started seeing each other. He never told me but it was very obvious and even though he didn’t say, I know he knew I could tell. I’ve not had anyone get me going the way he did, I think because we didn’t go all the way until we’d seen each other a few times. When he touched my body I tingled all over, and he took his time kissing me and all. He did cum very quickly always, like as soon as he touched me lmao but he was also ready to go again right after. It was a good experience overall! Much better than experiences I’ve had with people who were not virgins.” –FormNo8111
He apologized a lot.
“He didn’t tell me until afterwards but it was obvious. He came on 15 seconds (literally… I am not exaggerating), and it was not even inside of me yet.
He seemed extremely nervous and apologized profusely. He was a good person but ultimately, I felt the difference in experience pervaded throughout all areas of the relationship.” –103019
We definitely weren’t compatible.
“Honestly….it was really awkward. I am not a person that leads well and I prefer to be led, so it was not a pleasant experience at all. I don’t blame him at all, we were just clearly very sexually incompatible.” –sciencebottle
I wouldn’t do it again.
“I’ve only done it once, wouldn’t do it again. It was uncomfortable and he couldn’t relax. He ended up jerking off for like hourssssss and wanted to cum on my neck.” –bikinifetish
