If you’ve had a baby or know someone who has, you know that a lot goes along with preparing for the arrival of a new bundle of joy. There are appointments with doctors and midwives, you have to buy new clothes for growing bellies, and then there is all the stuff you have to buy for the baby. If it’s your first, lordy, that’s a lot of stuff. But as time passes and your pregnancy hits the final stretch, you might not want to do much.
Pregnant women are exhausted those last few weeks, but along with that exhaustion comes the overwhelming urge for us to clean every darn nook and cranny in our home. You don’t want to do it, but there's a sense of urgency telling you it absolutely must get done, and it can be maddening. One mom-to-be decided to skip the baby shower and have her friends come over to clean her showers instead. Why didn’t we think of this?
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A nesting party is the perfect solution for expectant moms.
Yes, you read that correctly: Your friends will come over and clean your house. Do you really want to open a bunch of gifts with your friends, or would you rather your besties clean things that you can no longer reach? TikToker Nia Lui, @nialui21, shared her thoughts on baby showers and how she really hates them. She said she saw the idea on TikTok and decided it was totally for her.
“I don’t like being the center of attention. I don’t like playing dumb games. I just don’t,” Lui explained.
And with this being her third baby, she didn’t need a lot of things.
She said she had plenty of stuff. What she really wanted instead was some help around the house. So Lui asked her BFF to throw together a nesting party instead of a baby shower, and she was all in. The BFF started a group chat and got a small group of friends and family to help Lui get her house in order before the arrival of her baby girl.
She compiled a list of things she wanted done, and everyone chose a few tasks. In three hours, the women had created the perfect nest for the momma-to-be.
Lui was thrilled.
As she said, “It went wonderfully. We got so much done, and it made me feel so at peace in my own home.”
Not only did the tasks get completed, but Lui also felt a lot of love from her friends and family. She added that this doesn’t just have to be for expecting moms. She wants to normalize moms helping other overwhelmed moms.
“I think we should start that trend, of just like, being a village and being a community," she explained.
People are obsessed with the idea.
Not surprisingly, other baby shower haters exist.
“I refuse to go to baby showers but I would show up early for a nesting party,” someone commented.
Lots agreed. “I don’t do baby showers but if I got invited to this I’d totally do it,” another person wrote.
Plenty of moms wish they could get friends to help.
“I told my family if they visit before the baby comes they have to pick a room and scrub the baseboards. So far no one has came over ,” one mom joked.
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Nesting parties might start trending soon.
So many moms wanted to bless others with this kind of thing.
“I’m sorry but how has this not been a thing FOREVER?! I would absolutely go help alllll my pregnant friends. And wish I could have had one,” one comment reads.
“this is in the vein of a blessingway. and I absolutely love it. we need this sort of mothering the mother in our culture. thank you for sharing,” someone else wrote.
And, yes, let’s help all mommas out.
“Can I have a nesting party for just being a single mom? I’m not doing anything new … just kinda old and tired,” another comment reads.
Count us among the impressed. Seriously, after all these babies we’ve had, we so wish someone would’ve come over and thrown in a load of laundry or vacuumed under the couch cushions. If we ever have another baby, we're definitely skipping the baby shower and passing out dust rags instead.
