Even though it's been less than 10 years since Jessa Duggar and Ben Seewald got married, so much has happened since fans watched them tie the knot on Counting On. Their love story has been adorable from the start, and after watching them court and get engaged — despite the distance between t hem they've become true #MarriageGoals since making it official in 2014. Four babies later, nothing has changed, and things seem to only have gotten better for these two.
Considering the fact that we can still remember a time when Jessa was a kid on 19 Kids & Counting, it's kind of crazy to see her raising kids of her own — and she's such an awesome mom to Spurgeon, Henry, Ivy, and now Fern. She and Ben are pretty great at the marriage thing, too. They seem to really have found their groove, and even though their little ones obviously keep them busy, they're never too busy to carve out time for each other, whether that means spending time together at home or sneaking away for a date night.
Of course, we're a little obsessed with the rest of the couples in the Duggar family, too, but we have to hand it to these two — they're a pretty solid example of what a marriage should be, and just one look at Jessa's Instagram makes that much obvious.
Here are all the times Jessa and Ben have been marriage goals, and we have a feeling there will be even more in the future. These two are just too cute, and watching them create a life and a family together has been so much fun.
Their Photos Together Are Flawless
Is it just us, or do these two look incredible together? It's like every photo they take together is more beautiful than the last — no wonder their children are all so adorable. This is definitely a photogenic couple for sure (and we're having major envy over Jessa's curls here!).
Their Engagement Was So Sweet
Their engagement was so sweet to watch, especially with the way that Ben planned it out to be exactly what Jessa would have wanted (even if we were just dying for her to get to the end of that scavenger hunt). And how gorgeous was that glass chapel?! Seriously, so stunning.
Their Sense of Humor
When Jessa was still pregnant with Spurgeon, Ben shared this photo of her posing with a magazine they found that had a very fake headline, and we love that they could just laugh about it.
"We were surprised to find out that #BabySeewald was already born last week! Jessa says to tell y'all that she was relieved to find out that all that labor and delivery is already behind her," he wrote. "Oh, and she said that she really likes the cover picture, commenting 'I never imagined I'd have my pre-baby body back so soon!'"
Ben Cooks for Her
It's so sweet that Ben takes the time to make Jessa meals. The Duggar household might be all about traditional gender roles, but in their household (much like the way it goes in Jill and Derick's relationship), it seems like they love to help each other out.
Jessa's Sweet Words About Ben
Not long after Spurgeon was born, Jessa took the time to share some sweet words about her husband.
"I'm so thankful to God for giving me you, Babe! You're a gem! I'm so grateful to be married to such a sweet, godly man!" she wrote. "These past three weeks have been so precious to me as I have watched you love and care for our son. From his middle of the night diaper changes to his sweet cuddle times with daddy, it melts my heart to see the interaction between you two!"
All together now: Aww.
Looking Back on Their Wedding Day
Even though everything didn't go as planned, it's kind of adorable to see these two reminiscing about their special day (which, by the way, ended with ice cream). They might have been running behind schedule, but it's clear they have a lot of happy memories.
This Ridiculously Adorable Photo
What's cuter: Ben and Jessa's smooch, or Spurgeon on Ben's shoulders? We can't decide, but this one — which served as one of their earliest photos as a family of three — is definitely a framer. It didn't last long, though, because soon enough, Henry would be joining the fam!
Jessa Looked Back on Her Wedding Vows
And with vows like these, it's no wonder their marriage has been so wonderful so far.
"I promise to encourage you, inspire you and love you truly when we are together and when we are apart; when our lives are at peace and when they are in turmoil; when I am proud of you and when I am disappointed in you; in times of work and in times of rest," Jessa's vows said. "I promise to passionately pursue you, to pray for you, and to empower you to do the things that you dream."
This First Date Throwback
These two look like babies here — they've changed so much since their first date! Wonder if these two kids had any idea what life had in store for them a few years down the road? After all, if they had never decided to go on this date, there are four very cute little ones who would never exist!
Jessa's Message for Ben's First Father's Day
"You're already such a sweet daddy, caring for your preborn baby! You're my #1 cheerleader when it comes to making good food choices, but you also understand when the baby 'needs' a late-night bowl of cookies & cream ice cream!" she wrote."Thanks for all the back rubs, breakfast in bed, and for encouraging me to stick with those pregnancy workouts! You're the best! So blessed to have you as my husband and the father of our baby."
And a Post She Shared for His Birthday
Jessa never has enough positive things to say about her husband, especially on his birthday. One year, she wrote:
"You are so tender and compassionate, humble, loving and faithful. You always look out for my comfort and wellbeing before your own," she wrote. "You're not afraid to admit your mistakes and quickly make things right. You're a true gem. With each day that passes, I realize more and more just how blessed I am to have you as my man! There is no one else I would rather have as the daddy of my baby!"
Their Honeymoon Was Dreamy
Everything about Jessa and Ben's honeymoon had us jealous — who wouldn't want to start their marriage in Venice? We will forever be envious of this trip, especially when they share the adorable throwbacks like this one that remind us. Everything about it was so romantic!
Their Wedding Photos Are Ridiculously Gorgeous
Their wedding day definitely looked like a fairy tale, didn't it? We're still obsessed with Jessa's pink dress. Honestly, we never would have guessed by looking at the photos that they had never done anything more than side hugs and hold hands before the moment they said their vows. Unless …
Their First Baby Announcement
This was an adorable way to announce that they were expecting baby Spurgeon, and it was so exciting to find out that Jessa and Ben would become parents soon. So far, they've been killing it, and Spurgeon and Henry being such happily little boys is all the proof we need.
Their Ugly Sweater Party Looks
If they didn't use this photo for their Christmas cards, they definitely need to in the future. They took the challenge of an ugly sweater party — an annual tradition the Duggar family loves to celebrate every holiday season — and knocked it right out of the park, toddlers included.
Jessa's Valentine's Day Message to Ben
As if this photo isn't gorgeous enough on its own, Jessa's caption was just as sweet. She wrote:
"I’m reminded daily just how blessed I am to be married to you. I don’t know another man who is as quick to ask forgiveness when he messes up as you are," she wrote. "I don’t know another dad who is more involved in the diapers, cuddles, wrestling matches and training moments as you are. I don’t know another man who is as sensitive to the emotions and feelings of others as you are. You’re a priceless treasure. God blessed me beyond in giving me you."
Jessa's Sweet Blog Post for Ben
In a birthday blog post that Jessa wrote for Ben, she told the story of how they met and fell in love, and although it was lengthy, it's definitely worth a read. It's easy to see through her words how much Ben and their life together means to Jessa, even if she does seem a bit stoic on the show.
Their Latest Baby Announcement
Jessa and Ben shared this sweet family photo to announce that they were expecting their third child, who we'd later come to know as Miss Ivy Jane Seewald. She's two years old these days (and full of personality), but we can't imagine their family without her!
Anything Can Be a Date
When you're parents, you have to get creative with date night, and that means that sometimes, even grocery shopping ends up becoming a date. Still, we have to give props to Ben and Jessa for finding a way to have fun together even when doing a chore like getting groceries.
So in Love
Even though Jessa and Ben have been together for awhile (and have plenty of kids, who tend to suck the romance out of a lot of situations), it's easy to see that they're still so in love with each other, especially in photos like this. They're such a beautiful couple.
Welcoming No. Four
Jessa and Ben's fourth child arrived in July 2021: daughter Fern Elliana. No word on whether or not she'll be their last, but it was sweet to see Ben at Jessa's side as they welcomed their fourth child together into the world as a team. We can't wait to see what's next for this couple.
