Getting married is so exciting. Paying for a wedding is so … not. That is why many soon-to-be newlyweds have some financial help from their families leading up to big day. But just because your family could afford to contribute, it doesn't mean that they have to, does it? That was the question many on the Internet were wondering after one woman accused her mother-in-law of "lying" about her finances to get out of helping her and her fiancé pay for their wedding.
According to the woman, she's tired of hearing her mother-in-law stretch the truth about her finances.
In a post on Reddit, where a screenshot of the woman's rant was shared, the bride explained that when she and her fiancé told his mother that they were going to get married she was "shocked." And then when they asked her to help them pay for the affair, she was adamant that she had no money to contribute.
"After a few months, I find out she gets money from a property she rents out," the bride continued. "Plus she gets social security from her ex husband that passed away years ago. "The bride added that her MIL even had the *audacity* to claim she has nothing when she even "uses her daughter's paychecks to help her out."
But even though her MIL had initially said she couldn't afford to help them pay, she did finally agree to help split the cost of the wedding three ways; between the future-bride and groom, her parents, and her.
According to the bride, her mother-in-law managed to cough up about $2,000 of what she agreed to contribute. But unfortunately, she eventually had to go back on her word once her own bills had started to pile up and tax season forced her to ask for $1,000 of it back from her son.
Apparently, this was the final straw for the bride. She felt as if her MIL's stories were "lies after lies and lies."
"What should I do?" the bride asked. "She wants to invite all her side of the family but doesn't want to contribute."
In the comments, people thought that this bride was acting entitled as heck.
"If you can’t afford your own wedding. You shouldn’t get married," one person wrote. "If your parents want to help then that’s great but they aren’t the ones getting married so they shouldn’t be obligated to pay."
And someone else agreed that this bride was bad news. "This entitlement culture is something I can't stand," they wrote. "Even if I had tons of money I wouldn't give this chick a dime."
Someone else joked that "MIL is a greedy liar who would have enough money if she just stopped eating or participating in capitalism altogether." Which is clearly impossible.
But not everyone agreed. Some people thought that the bride had made some fair points.
"I might be the only one but if she wants to invite allllllll of her family then shouldn’t she also throw down some cash?" one person commented. "Cause if not then sorry we’ll invite who we can afford to invite and if that means aunt Mary who is your third cousin twice removed who we haven’t even met, [she] can’t be invited, then so be it."
"I don’t think anyone has a right to invite people if they aren’t contributing to cover the cost of the meal, family or not," another person agreed. "If they aren’t on my guest list then they’re not invited."
Someone else thought that the MIL just needed to stick to her guns. "Also devils advocate, bride might be an (expletive) but MIL should just say outright 'I can't contribute financially' instead of back-and-forth."
One commenter might have summed it up best: "They both sound unreasonable and stubborn."
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