Pregnancy is hard work, and women sacrifice a lot for nine months in hopes that they will deliver a healthy and happy baby. In addition to what they give up, they also take on things such as weight gain and different emotions from raging hormones, and sometimes things just make them feel sick. If you've had morning sickness or an aversion to something during pregnancy that makes you feel nauseated, it's the worst. So you try your best to avoid those things.
When you are pregnant, you hope your partner will do their best to respect you and your boundaries. Would your partner push it and do things you asked them not to? Hopefully not, but we all know some people care only about themselves and do whatever they please. Take the man who recently posted to Reddit's AITA Forum asking if he is wrong to continue to drink alcohol even though the mere smell makes his pregnant wife sick. He seems pretty selfish.
His wife can't handle the smell of booze.
The original poster is 31, and his 29-year-old wife is four months pregnant. She has developed an extremely strong aversion to alcohol. It's so bad that even the slightest whiff makes her want to throw up. That sounds pretty terrible.
"I (31m) love whiskey in the evening time. I would drink a glass, proceed to brush and use mouthwash so my wife doesn't barf on me when she sees me," OP explained.
OK, but why is he doing it if it makes her that sick?
His wife wants absolutely nothing to do with him when he drinks. It is beyond repulsive to her.
"She runs away from me whenever I'm even a metre away because she claims she can still smell it from a mile away. We haven't even kissed at night due to this and i have tried everything to eliminate the whiskey smell," he explained. "Yet, she still believes she can smell the faint whiskey, which makes her lose it completely."
So, if she says that she can smell it — and women are known to have heightened senses during pregnancy — why would he keep drinking it?
Things came to a head after a recent glass of whiskey.
Even though OP did his best to clean up after his cocktail, his wife could still smell it on him. He thought changing his clothes and taking a shower would take care of it, but she still got sick.
"She comes back to tell me that 'she isn't coming near me at night until this baby comes out'. Proceeds to tell me that she was 'right' and that 'I am being inconsiderate to her introduction to motherhood'. Even thought I think I am being overly considerate and trying my best to get rid of this 'whiskey scent' that she can apparently smell from a mile away," he wrote.
OP's wife is done with him, and she's now staying in the guest room. He isn't giving up his alcohol for her, so she isn't staying in the room with him. He thinks she is being unreasonable and disrespectful to him.
Uh, what? Now he is asking if he's the a–hole.
Can you guess how this went for OP?
Redditors immediately slammed him in the comments. People couldn't believe this guy honestly thought his wife was in the wrong.
"Wait, you think she's being disrespectful because she doesn't want to puke?? Pregnant women often have a very heightened sense of smell. If you think about it, it can be a very helpful pregnancy symptom, because eating something rotten and/or getting food poisoning can be especially dangerous," one person wrote. "So evolutionarily, it's helpful to have a really good sense of smell while pregnant. What sucks is having a husband who thinks that you vomiting is somehow inconvenient for him."
"It really needs to be drilled in that she is not being dramatic and disrespectful; she can actually quite literally smell it,' another person echoed. "And OP is going out of the way to subject her to it at this point. YTA. Stop adding stress to her life."
"I fail to see how anything she did could be considered 'Disrespectful' by a rational human. She can't be around you after you drink. You know this and YOU choose to drink. The steps you've taken are NOT enough because she still vomits…. You see it happen and yet you accuse her of 'overreacting?'" someone else questioned.
Just put down the cocktail, dude.
Is there something more serious going on here than OP wanting a drink? People wondered.
"YTA your wife is sacrificing so much by carrying your child. You should sacrifice the whiskey," one person suggested. "Isn't your wife more important than whiskey? And if you can't stop it's really time to consider if you have a drinking problem."
Other people want him to get help from a professional.
"Alcoholics make excuses like this. Alcoholics can't go a day (or less) without a drink," one comment reads. "The fact that you care more about having you're beloved whiskey than the physically demanding toll your wife's body is taking says a lot about who you are as a person."
"What happens when baby comes? Do you seriously think drinking whisky and then taking care of a newborn will really be acceptable?" someone else asked. "Personally, I'd call child protective services on you immediately. Like before baby is born because obviously you need some help."
Some people were pretty blunt.
"You are forcing your wife into the guest room because whiskey is more important than her and your child's health and safety," one person wrote. "At that point, you have a drinking problem."
Not a single person sided with OP.
It's no surprise Redditors sided with OP's wife 100%. How could a woman carrying your child be wrong for asking you to sacrifice one thing for her while she is doing so much for you and the baby?
It didn't make sense to anyone and, quite honestly, ticked off a lot of people. OP, you better watch it, they warned. If you're not careful, this could all blow up in your face.
"If you have an issue like addiction. If you don't WANT to stop drinking to support your wife then SHE needs to seriously ponder if SHE has an issue like a selfish, narcissistic husband who is going to only get worse when a baby enters the picture," one person wrote. "But fear not, you'll be able to relax and enjoy all the nightly whisky you like once you're living alone."
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