Marriages and relationships can be complicated between husbands and wives. Many individuals have a past and friendships that have been established before they meet their spouse. But there are some "relationships" that can be borderline uncomfortable for a partner.
Many couples often have issues when their spouse has a close friend of the opposite sex, especially if they believe this relationship crosses the line from time to time. They'll choose to ask their spouse to distance themselves from the person or even end the friendship altogether. But not every spouse is receptive to this ask.
Recently, one wife opened up on Reddit about her decision to walk out on her husband's birthday dinner after an old female friend showed up.
The wife shared that she and her husband have been together for three years.
They have been dating for three years but have only been married for five months, OP shared in her post to Reddit's AITA forum. The two have not really had any problems in their relationship — up until a week before their wedding.
Her husband has a close female friend, Ava, whom he has known since high school. The two have always been close friends, and the wife hadn't thought much of it until an incident that happened just days before they said "I do."
Her husband revealed that Ava dropped a bombshell on him before their big day.
Her husband sat her down and told her that Ava revealed she has feelings for him and that she wanted to talk him out of the wedding and getting married.
She even broke up with her boyfriend of six years to try and prove to him that she was serious and wanted to be with him.
The couple decided it was best if they both cut ties with Ava, and they agreed to uninvite her to their wedding.
Then, the night of his 30th birthday dinner, Ava reappeared.
The couple and their friends and family were out at a restaurant for the husband's 30th birthday dinner when Ava walked in. She was there alone to grab dinner and saw the birthday dinner happening. She apologized for intruding but wanted to say "Hi" and wish the husband a happy birthday.
The wife thought that she would leave afterward, but then her husband told Ava to "have a seat" and join them.
The wife was "visibly uncomfortable."
Instead of staying and feeling awkward, she offered Ava her seat and left the restaurant. She called an Uber and went home "because I want absolutely nothing to do with her," she wrote.
When her husband returned to their house nearly two hours later, he was angry she had left the dinner. She asked why he invited Ava to join them when clearly they had cut her off.
The husband said he was "just being nice" and that she probably doesn't have feelings for him anymore, as it's been a long time. He also claimed that his wife "ruined his birthday."
Many people online sided with the wife, saying she was definitely not wrong.
Several people said it has not been a long time and her husband was mistaken. "It’s been five months, not five years — your husband is delusional if he thinks she’s genuinely gotten over him and his behaviour was appropriate," shared one Reddit commenter.
Another person agreed. "She’s had feelings for him since they became friends sophomore year of high school and ended a 6 year relationship to confess her feelings. That won’t disappear after 5 months."
Some also were curious why she was at the same restaurant that night, wondering if the husband had told Ava about the birthday dinner and invited her.
"[T]he story smells a little fishy," one commenter wrote. "She coincidentally came to the same restaurant, on his birthday, to eat alone. You walk out, and instead of going to talk to you, he lets you leave and stays there for 2 more hours (presumably with her being there)? I dunno, just sounds VERY coincidental."
Other commenters went further, sharing that the wife should even "reconsider" her marriage.
Many Reddit users felt the situation brought up a lot of red flags.
As one commenter wrote, "You might want to reconsider your marriage. His relationship with that other woman is still suspect, and how he treated you was outright disrespectful at the table, and completely uncaring afterwards, followed by a huge scoop of gaslighting you when he got home. None of this is healthy."
One person had a fairly dire warning for OP: "Seems like hubby wants his cake and eat it too. He has OP married and on lockdown, now he wants to conveniently add Ava back in the mix under the guise of "she's over me" and therefore not a threat to their marriage. Don't buy it OP. Nothing good can come from this."
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