Crafty mothers love to "nest" by making special handmade items for their little ones. For anyone who loves to knit or crochet, the obvious choice? A cozy, adorable blanket stitched together with love.
An expecting mom had just begun a project for her own little one when a friend pointed out a problem (OK, berated her) over her color choice. So now the mom wants to know if she is being truly disrespectful.
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A mom who loves to crochet and is expecting a baby took to Reddit after she started one of her projects for the newest addition to the family.
"I also have an almost 3 year old son, who I’ve been trying to involve as much as I can so he’s somewhat prepared for his baby sister," she explained.
"I decided to let him pick out a color yarn for one of the blankets, and he picked a literal rainbow colored, vibrant, variegated yarn. He loves colors and bright things, most baby blankets are done with soft, muted colors, so I had no problem with one blanket in this color. I started working on the blanket a few days ago and have made some decent progress. My son loves to see it and mentions the 'rainbow for baby sister' every time he does."
Although she doesn't advertise officially that she has this skill, several of her friends know she crochets and commission her to make blankets.
"I had a friend ask me what I was currently working on and if I’d be able to make her a blanket for her sisters upcoming baby," the mom wrote. "I sent her a picture of the rainbow blanket I’m currently doing, and she asked who it was for. I told her it was for my baby and she asked whether I’d had a secret miscarriage before this baby. When I told her no, she went off on me saying it was very disrespectful to make myself a rainbow blanket when I hadn’t suffered a miscarriage and therefore I wasn’t having a rainbow baby."
She admitted that the thought honestly never crossed her mind.
"This really surprised me as the thought hadn’t even crossed my mind, I have no intention of posting anything about this blanket anywhere or mentioning anything about it, but I can see where someone may think this baby is a rainbow baby if we use the blanket in public. AITA for making a blanket that could disrespect someone who has suffered through pregnancy losses? I can see her point but I was really just trying to involve my son," she shared.
Redditors confirmed nothing egregious was going on here.
"I've had 7 miscarriages and I've never heard of this … Rainbows are a broad symbol and they aren't owned by any particular group," stated one reader. "If you like rainbows, make a rainbow blanket."
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Mostly everyone thought her friend was putting too much stock in the color choice.
"You're crocheting your baby a blanket out of colors your son picked and you like. Period," wrote another user. "The colors do not have to mean anything and it's silly for people to be upset with you if they choose to misinterpret this."
Of course moms who experienced pregnancy loss have every right to feel connected to the rainbow symbol, but it ultimately doesn't bar anyone else for identifying with its beauty.
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