Before visiting a newborn baby for the first time, there are certain things that loved ones should take into consideration. This includes how soon mom actually wants visitors, keeping your parenting style or unsolicited advice out of it, and adhering to her vaccine preferences. But when it's a breastfeeding baby, there are separate — but equally important — rules that people need to follow.
Since not everyone knows how to support a nursing mom and her breastfeeding baby, the Breastfeeding in Northern Ireland Facebook page compiled a list of rules to follow when baby gets hungry while you're around. "This news just in — when you visit breastfed baby, you are likely to see a little bit of breast. ," the post says. "Tips for how to react when confronted with a tiny bit of breast (which you can see because the breast is where the milk is and the milk is what the baby drinks.) ."
The first rule is to keep talking to mom just like you were before.
There's no reason to shield your eyes, stare, gawk, turn red, or make things awkward. If mom is comfortable enough breastfeeding in front of you, then don't expect her to cover or feed in a way that's uncomfortable in her own home.
Second: 'Do not leave the room unless asked, do not ask mom to leave the room.'
Once again, this is about respecting how mom chooses to feed her baby and as a visitor, you should not only know what you're in for before heading over but also be at peace with it before you get there.
Three and four: It's about support.
The third rule they lay out is to tell mom how great she's doing and that you're proud of her. Even if she's a breastfeeding pro who makes it look insanely easy, reminding her of the badass goddess that she is can go a long way.
Next is if mom is struggling, "get her good face-to-face support," they suggest. "A bottle is not face to face breastfeeding support." Mom already knows that formula is an option, but bringing it up when she's trying to power through isn't the most effective way to help her.
Five: Bring food.
"Bring food. Bring drinks. Make the food. Pour the drinks ," they advise. Yes, you're a guest in her home but she already has one mouth she's focused on feeding. Help by creating less work instead of more during your visit.
Lastly, if the baby cries, then give him or her to mom.
"Do not attempt to walk around shushing, patting saying it worked for your baby," it says. "This baby wants mom."
Sticking to these six guidelines will help mom feel more relaxed during your time together and show that you both respect and support her.
"Remember — visiting a breastfed baby may result in exposure to breasts, oxytocin, melatonin, and all round feel good hormones," so if you can't handle any of the above, it may just be best to stay home.
