Am I done? I donât know… but what I do know is it will be up to: ME. And my husband.
I thought with six little babes that feeling would have passed. That urge to hold a little person in my arms; to breastfeed, to be up all hours of the night. And now itâs different because on no sleep I have to then get up at 6 a.m. And make a space project for my 6-year-old Iâve forgotten about.
Phew; Maybe I am done. But that will be MY decision.
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And you can make the 'over population' comments.
Like my one extra child that I want to raise right and invest time on is going to make such a HUGE difference to the mass population; come on.
And the âThey do it for government payments.â
If you knew one d— thing about raising six children with the four jobs that we have, itâs that as of next year we will receive NOTHING.
And: âMoney does not a good person make.âÂ
If you think raising children is about money, you know nothing. But it doesnât hurt which is why we work BLOODY hard.
But you know what concerns me.
How much I still care what people think.
I mean yes I care if my doctor thinks itâs safe.
And yes I care how my husband feels.
How it will effect our family unit and our children.
Our beautiful grandparents.
But I give power to the masses.
I think; what would my followers think?
What would our extended family think?
What would our friends think?
What would other doctors and midwives think?
And then I stopped thinking about that.
And I started thinking about all of the women who feel like itâs not [their] choice to think about it?
I thought about all of the women with two children or three children or seven children.
That havenât advocated for themselves.
Who have thought that because someone had told them a number; a family member, a doctor or a midwife, that was the number they had to live by.
I wanted to let them know that there are options.
You are entitled to ask questions.
To seek answers.Â
From medical professionals, from family, from friends.
I wanted to let them know that I am not judging them.
And that Iâm DONE judging myself.
Someone once said to me; âYouâll never regret the children that you do have.âÂ
And they were spot on.
Iâll have as many kids as I d— well like.
Well me and my husband.Â
This post was written by Krechelle Carter of Eightathome and was reprinted with permission.