What to name your baby isn't just a minor new parent decision. It's a huge deal that parents should come to together because it will likely stick with them for life. That is exactly why one wife on Reddit is completely frustrated with her husband, who is insisting that they name their kid after his dad — despite her hard no. The wife has several real reasons why she thinks this is a terrible idea, but her husband won't budge and now the two are at odds over this big baby name battle.
The wife explained that the two aren't even close to having a baby, but this disagreement over what baby will be named is already causing problems.
In a post that has since been deleted, the wife explained that despite the fact that they are in no way expecting, she and her husband of six years are "planners" so they've been talking about baby names way in advanced. The problem is that if it's a boy, her husband is stuck on the idea that the baby should be named after his dad, who is still alive, because he idolizes him.
But that idea has given his wife some serious reservations. She objects for three reasons: She simply doesn't like the name, she thinks her boy deserves to have his own name, and it will cause nasty family drama because her FIL and MIL had a nasty divorce.
In an effort to compromise, the wife offered to use her father-in-law's moniker for a middle name, but her husband won't settle for anything less than what he wants. "I know that some might say that we are not pregnant or trying to be so why is this an issue now? I agree," she wrote. "But my husband is starting to resent me for this and it is hindering our relationship in a negative way."
Unsure of what to do next, the wife has now turned for the Internet for advice. Is it wrong of her to not want to give in to her husband's demands when it comes to their first-born son? "I wish I could lie and 'agree' to naming our future son that and pray that we have daughters," she wrote. "But I don't want to lie and cause issues later."
Overwhelmingly, people online told the wife that she needs to keep putting her foot down.
One person shared that when their dad tried to do something like this, it was bad for their parents' marriage in the long run.
"Don't bend completely to your husband, find a name you both like instead," the commenter wrote.
And someone else was seriously p*ssed that the woman's husband was acting like a dictator.
Later in the thread, the wife admitted that she didn't even want to use her FIL's name as her son's middle name but she agreed to it in the spirit of compromise. So why can't her husband do the same?
And someone else pointed out that as long as the baby had the same last name as the husband and his dad, technically he would be named after him.
In the end, the wife wrote that she's not ready to end their marriage over this issue, but she added that most likely she'll keep looking for a way to get the two of them on the same page about what to name their son. "Compromise is a component I think is essential in a relationship and I don't think this is an exception," she added.
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