Growing up I never thought much of it. When a woman was expecting a baby she had a baby shower. It didn't matter if it was her first, second, or third. It didn't matter if the new baby was the same sex as her older siblings or not. It didn't even matter whether we all brought presents or not. What mattered was getting together to celebrate a new life.
But then my husband and I moved to the South, and I discovered that baby showers for second-born children were a big no-no. When I became pregnant with my own child and entered the world of mommy forums — a word of advice for mamas-to-be, stay away from the forums! — I would watch passionate debates play out between women on proper baby shower etiquette.
I didn't get why everyone was making a big deal over a simple party
Honestly, there are bigger faux-pas in the world to get bent out of shape over
If you really feel so strongly about it, just decline the invitation and move on with your life, no need to make the mother-to-be feel bad about wanting to celebrate her baby. But can we just put this debate to rest? In a world where we have to deal with so much craziness, let's find every opportunity we can to celebrate love, family, and the hope that comes with new life.
