Cultural appropriation is a hot-button issue that is often misunderstood. Like all the big, uncomfortable topics that can be daunting to explain to children, we are not always armed with the exact right words the moment we need them. But now, perhaps more than ever, it is vital that parents take the time to learn about this complex issue and have honest discussions at home.
Talking about race and culture with your kids (and approaching it in ways that are age-appropriate) demystifies the discussion and helps children understand and respect cultures outside of their own. If you’re worried about how to approach this issue with your children, here are some ways you can explain cultural appropriation to your kids.
What is cultural appropriation?
How to avoid cultural appropriation with kids
As adults, we understand complex issues like racism and oppression and how minority cultures have been exploited throughout history. But children are not born with that context. Which is why it can be extra tricky to explain why cultural appropriation is bad and how it can be avoided.
When faced with an instance of cultural appropriation, here’s how you can begin to navigate that conversation with your child.
1. First, ask them why this is important to them.
Whether a child wants to dress as a certain character, wear their hair a certain way, or is speaking in an accent they heard on TV, remember that children learn by osmosis. They are absorbing the world around them and picking and choosing what sticks out to them. They are not likely aware that their choice could be offensive to others and so it’s important not to dismiss an idea without first discussing why it’s important to them in the first place. Listen to their reasons and use that as a jumping off point for the conversation.
2. Discuss the context of that piece of culture together.
If it is a topic you understand well, discuss it with them. If not, take the time to research the origins together. In the simplest of terms, talk about the history and the people behind this piece of culture.
3. Explain how other cultures are treated differently.
Children learn early on that while everyone should be treated the same, this is sadly not the case. Treating others with kindness and respect extends to honoring their cultures.
4. Offer alternative suggestions.
Now that you’ve laid the groundwork and emphasized the importance of respecting other cultures, offer alternative suggestions for them to consider.
5. Treat this as an opportunity for growth.
Issues regarding race and culture will not be understood by children after one discussion. Even as adults, most of us still have a lot we will continue to learn in time. The important thing is that you lead by example and continue to be open to growth yourself. By doing this, you will instill in your children an appreciation and respect for others.
