Woman Refused to Bail Out Husband Who Overslept … Again, Even Though It Affected Their Kid

Co-parenting, whether together or separately, is not always an easy and straightforward relationship. Even couples who are happy and in love and think they have great communication can experience shifts and waves as they navigate new parenthood.

While we can often try to prepare ourselves for some of the more common hiccups in how our world will shift when we have a new baby, there will always be surprises.

Just ask one mom who recently took to Reddit to get advice when she and her husband butted heads after welcoming their second baby.

Posting to Reddit’s AITA community, the original poster explained that she and her husband have two daughters — one is 2 years old and the youngest is only 2 weeks old.

She’s pretty busy with her two kids, and the youngest needs OP a lot during the night. “The newborn is mostly breastfed with the exception of 1 formula bottle at night,” she explained.

'Needless to say I’ve become a human milk bag,' OP admitted.

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Her newborn has “taken to cluster feeding at night” which has really impacted the amount of sleep OP is able to get. She explained that her “sleep is very fragmented,” so she feels she gets “none at all.”

At the same time as getting used to their routine with a new baby, their oldest child just started preschool.

'Onto the crux of the issue,' she warned Reddit before jumping into her story.

“Yesterday my husband was supposed to get our oldest ready for school,” she explained. OP shared that she was up at 9 a.m. for her class and she noticed that nothing was ready for their older daughter. She explained that before she went to bed she did all the prep work to make the morning easier for her husband.

OP shared that all her husband had to do was come home, not sleep, and get their daughter into her uniform and take her to school. She did everything else beforehand to help out.

But things still went weird that morning.

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“7am arrives I’m waking him up. 7:10 7:15 finally he rolls out of bed,” OP recalled. “I’ve been nursing since 12:30 last night so I’m trying to get the baby down so I can rest before my 10am class,” she shared.

Her husband asked if she could help him get their daughter ready. Help more than she did the night before when she did the bulk of that prep work?

'I said no the baby is still nursing,' OP recalled, 'and if I move her she’ll cry.'

They were already going to be late though. “Thing is our daughter has to get to school between 8-8:30,” OP explained. “She’s already missed 2 days this week.”

But OP’s husband was still throwing crap at her. “He’s annoyed with me and complaining,” OP admitted.

Following sharing the details, OP asked Reddit if she should have sucked it up and helped pick up the slack for her husband.

And people in the comment section were pretty clear that OP didn’t deserve her husband being annoyed.

“The audacity of that man asking his nursing wife to help while she's in the middle of taking care of the newborn,” one person wrote. “Does he expect OP to grown extra arms and legs? He has two very capable arms and legs his own to get his oldest dressed.”

“You’re staying up all night with the baby cause you’re nursing, so he should take care of your oldest daughter and see her off to school,” commented someone else. “Dual parenting an all, you know…”

“Your husband is a grown man that needs to learn to take care of his kids when you're already expanded yourself enough,” wrote another Redditor. “Do you ever get a break OP? You deserve one.”

“How much more must you do?” questioned someone who clearly understood. "You are both sleep deprived I assume, home from work and you from your newborn. But you also have to deal with a two year old to deal with and classes to attend. He could drop her off and then come home and sleep while you still have day time to contend with. He needs to man up and treat parenting like a partnership and not something he does as a favour.”