Most parents recognize that when they make their child a promise, they should do everything in their power to ensure that they’re able to fulfill it. Keeping promises not only establishes trust between parent and child, it lets your kid know that they’re worthy of the time and effort it takes to bring that promise to life.
It’s understood. But one father is wondering if those same rules apply once your children reach adulthood. He took his question to the internet to get opinions from the people of Reddit, and things got interesting.
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A father wondered if breaking a promise to an adult child is all that bad.
On Reddit, a father explained that he promised all of his children that when they were ready, he’d help them pay for their weddings. It's a promise he has already honored for two of his older children. But now that his third child is getting married, he’s wondering if he can get out of it. He’s wondering if breaking the promise to his son would make him an a–hole.
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The OP says his future daughter-in-law is 'insufferable.'
He writes: “… my son is getting married to an insufferable woman. She is too egotistic and I don’t like her at all.” But more than just an aversion to his future daughter-in-law, the OP has other plans for the money.
“There is also my youngest child,” he explains. “She is very smart and there is this really expensive school in our city that I think would be good for her and help her get into a better college. I can only afford one thing, either put the money towards me daughter's education or give it to my son for his wedding.”
He says his daughter's future is more important than 'a party.'
The man said that his wife believes he should give the money to his son as promised. But the father has already decided he wants to save it for his daughter. He ended the post writing, “My wife and son both think I’m an a–hole but I think my daughter’s future is more important than a party.”
Initially, this scenario sounded like a bit of a pickle. But after reading the comments, it’s clear the OP is in the wrong.
The OP said he never specified how much he would give his son.
Later, commenting about the whole thing, the OP wrote that he could give his son $1 for the wedding because he never specified the amount he would be providing. Yikes. Nothing would be better than the slap in the face of giving one dollar.
Furthermore, while he calls his son’s fiancée insufferable and "egotistic," he never details which behaviors he finds so detestable. His lack of detail led many to believe that he is the true villain in this story.
'Your offer of giving $1 in the comments is so disgusting,' one user wrote.
“It’s your money to do with as you please, but rescinding your promise in order to punish your son for marrying someone you don’t like is petulant as f—,” one user wrote. “When your golden child daughter does something to disappoint you, will you punish her this way too?”
"I have a feeling his description of egotistical = he’s a misogynist and she doesn’t play the role he believes women should play," someone else conjectured. "She probably educated and independent and his son is probably an equal partner which he equates to weakness." That's a good point, so what's really going on here?
Others pointed out the $1 offer as another issue. “Your offer of giving $1 in the comments is so disgusting,” another user wrote. “We know who the insufferable one is and it’s not the fiancee.”
It’s clear the OP is trying to disguise his pettiness as concern for his daughter’s education. But the internet saw through his lies. What do you think about this situation? Is this father the a–hole?
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