What to Know
Despite the fact that moms are still constantly seen as the default parent, it doesn’t need to be that way — dads out there are perfectly capable of stepping up to the plate and doing just as much when it comes to their kids as their partners do. But unfortunately, so many people still have the attitude that a dad spending time with his kids without mom around is “babysitting” and not what it really is — parenting.
When one mom shared her “unpopular opinion” about dads in a TikTok video, she sparked quite a debate in the comments… and some people are really going to choose this as the hill they die on, aren’t they?
This mom doesn’t believe dads should need instructions to care for their own children.
@lisakoerner10 Your husband should never say he's babysitting your kids 🤷🏻♀️
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In the video, mom Lisa Koerner wrote, “Unpopular opinion: This might sting a little, but it has to be said: your husband should be able to take care of your kids on his own without you needing to leave a 3 page instruction manual or stressing for their health.”
It’s true — in an ideal parenting world, dads would equally carry the responsibility of their children with moms. It’s not like this in every relationship, but at the bare minimum, shouldn’t a dad at least be able to keep his kids alive without their mom reminding him what time they go to bed and when they need to go to school in the morning?
A lot of fellow moms (and even some dads) were in total agreement with her.
Even though she asked people to prove her wrong in the comments, few even attempted to try. Most of the comments on the video are from other parents agreeing with her take.
“Your husband should know what size diapers to buy and your child’s medical information without being told,” one commenter wrote.
Another added, “My own husband said that he’s shocked at the times he’s taken our daughter to the pediatrician by himself and the nurses are surprised that he knows all her information. And he’ll be like, ‘that’s the bare minimum.'”
Dads sure do tend to get a lot of praise for things that Moms do every single day, don’t they?
Some people seemed to still blame moms in the end.
Some did actually see this as an unpopular opinion… especially if Dad is working full time and Mom stays at home.
“If he is working 40+ hours a week and all you do is take care of the kids how is he supposed to know everything you do?” one wrote, while another said, “I also wonder what portion of moms attack their significant other for ‘not doing things the right way (their way).’ if my husband criticized everything I did I would quit trying too.”
No matter who does or doesn’t work outside of the home, kids should always be a shared responsibility — and dads should want to take an active role in raising their children. Is that seriously too much to ask?
