A natural attraction to your partner and desire for a sexual relationship are healthy things. When the chemistry between two people starts to wane, things may begin to change. Couples grow apart for a variety of reasons that aren’t always related to sex, but the physical part of their lives often also goes away. What if you’re the kind of person who craves physical touch? Does that mean you have to live without that part of your life to remain in a relationship?
A woman on Reddit doesn’t think so. She and her best friend sleep in a bed together, cuddling in a totally platonic way that her husband thinks is weird. But he’s not interested in being in the same bed, so what’s she supposed to do? Reddit to the rescue.
Things started to change in a way that not everyone loved.
The married woman posted in Reddit’s AITAH forum about her unique situation. She and her husband have been together for 11 years, and in that time, they’ve changed. OP likes to snuggle, use lots of pillows, and be close to him. Her husband hates that and started sleeping in a different room. When he moved to a different room, they also stopped having sex. She’s not as upset about that as she is about not having him near her.
“I miss my husband, ever since he started sleeping away from me, he has barely spoke to me. He gets up at 6am every day, leaves at 8am, and gets back home at 7-8pm, his job hours are 9-5, I don’t know where he is going. I feel unwanted,” she wrote in her post.
The whole thing evolved by chance.
OP went on to explain that her best friend recently got a divorce and moved in with them. Although she has her own room at OP’s home, the pair have started sleeping in the same bed. It’s a nonsexual relationship, but it gives OP the closeness she craves from another person. OP’s husband isn’t pleased with this arrangement at all.
“We have been snuggling together for about 3 weeks now and my husband is pissed. He told my whole (homophobic) family that I kicked him out of our bedroom so I can sleep with a girl. I just need advice and to know if I’m the ahole for snuggling with someone else,” OP wrote. The couple is considering divorce, and she wants advice.
Redditors did not like what they read.
The whole story seems very weird and people don’t trust OP’s husband.
“The big red flag for me is when he said no sex because you’re not sleeping in the same bed. That doesn’t even make sense,” one person commented. “You tried to adjust your sleeping habits for him, but it wasn’t good enough. Could be he’s trying to push your buttons to make you want to leave him because he’s too much of a coward to do it himself.”
Lots think there’s more to it than what OP revealed.
“Sounds to me he’s cheating or is going to,” someone wrote.
“Odds are he is cheating and that is why he finds it impossible to believe you are not,” another person added. “He is certainly hiding something, else why would he lie to everyone about how he ended up in the guest room?”
OP gave a strange update.
After reading the comments, she evidently went back to her husband, and they talked things out.
“I admitted to be kissing my friends forehead and cheeks, there he did get a bit p—ed but he admitted to cheating on me as well. We decided therapy or divorce will be the best option,” she wrote. “Thank you for all the advice, we will not be sleeping together again (my friend and I) and my husband and I are thinking about starting to do so again.”
Um, OK. We hope it all works out just the way you want it to, even though you don’t seem very sure yourself.
