Relationships can be challenging, but they can be especially hard if you don't really want to be in one. Even if you do want to be with your partner, there might be signs you're giving that are communicating the opposite. Remember that whole "actions speak louder than words" thing? Yep, some actions send very strong (and sometimes hurtful) signals. Here are 16 signs that you might be self-sabotaging your relationship.
You focus on the negative first
You take everything personally
Relationships are all about giving your partner the benefit of the doubt. Sometimes people are insensitive, forgetful, or just in a bad mood, and it has nothing to do with you. Really!
You don't trust your partner
Anyone who feels constantly second-guessed or that his partner assumes the worst in him, no matter what he does, will not want to stick around too long. Unless your partner has broken your trust, he shouldn't have to constantly earn it.
You're a big flirt
A good way to make your partner feel insecure about your commitment to her is to flirt with other people. Flirt with your partner. It's way more fun.
Everything else is more important to you
Your whole life doesn't have to be your relationship. But if you want the relationship to last, you can't prioritize everything above it.
You talk about your ex all the time
If you constantly talk about, or complain about, the person who came before your current partner, chances are you'll leave the impression that you still want to be with your ex. Move on — you're with someone new now.
You correct everything your partner says and does
Let's just be honest: No one wants to be in a relationship with a know-it-all. And those dishes will get clean even the way he does it.
