
Sure, there are some things we'll compromise on to be part of a friend's bridal party. But when it comes to hair, that's just one thing we won't mess with. That is why one woman's story of a friend pressuring her to wear a wig on her wedding day has struck a nerve, especially because the woman prefers to shave her head bald and feels that her friend asked the "favor" because she doesn't think she looks good without hair. Is she wrong for not wanting to wear a wig to her friend's big day?
The woman explained that ever since she left her religious upbringing, she's shaved her head and never looked back.

She continued that part of her religious practice was to keep her hair long, "because 'hair is a woman’s crown,'" but since she's left the religion, she's staunchly kept her hair short.
"So that’s a big reason I’m so stubborn about this issue," she explained in a post on Reddit. "Right now I’m bald because I always shave my head completely for the summer."
Normally, her friends don't mind that the that the anonymous woman has no hair by choice, but her 'do has now become a problem between her and the friend getting married who asked if she would wear a wig to her wedding.
"She explained that she wanted all of her bridesmaids to match and that she wanted us all to look good in the pictures," the OP wrote. "I told her I really didn’t want to get a wig, and we’ve been on bad terms ever since."
The woman added that she had other good reasons for not wanting to wear a wig, including the cost and the fact that it's going to be hot.

She added that she doesn't really want to spend the money on a wig that she knows she'd only wear for her friend's wedding and she's already splurged on other wedding expenses, including "a bridesmaid’s dress, new shoes, and plane tickets, as well as a small deposit for the person who’s going to do our makeup."
But still, her friends all argue that she's upset over nothing because "it's just a wig."
Online, some people feel that the bride made some fair points about HER wedding day.
"You'd not be the (expletive) if the baldness weren't your choice, but you knew you were getting into this where your appearance would be important," one commenter wrote. "She should have planned ahead assuming you do this every year, but what kind of (expletive) wouldn't expect to not shave her head as maid of honor (outside of a cancer wedding)?"
Someone else agreed that this was pretty reasonable. "She wants to be the center of attention not you," the person wrote. "It's not crazy crazy. You could be a good team player and wear it for the pics and maybe the vows and not any of the other times. She should pay for it but if you aren't too strapped [at the moment] then who cares? Let that day be about her."
"Stop being a prima donna," another commenter wrote. "It's your friend's wedding. Either comply or decline to be a bridesmaid. Your opinion means nothing at another person's wedding."
But what really gets under the friend's skin is the implication that she doesn't look good without hair.

Hurt, the woman explained that she felt like her friend was telling her that she looks bad how she is, "which I personally don’t think is true. Is being bald so hideous I’ll ruin her pictures?" she asked.
The writer even offered to wear a headscarf or grow her hair into a pixie — but her friend shot both things down. She also added that her friend would not help her pay for a wig, even partially.
"I’m still in the bridal party and invited but I don’t know for how much longer, honestly," she wrote. "AITA for not wanting to wear a wig?"
Other people were seriously confused by the bride's request.
"If she had a problem with your appearance then why the (expletive) did she make you her bridesmaid? You’re a friend?" one commenter wrote. "Well friends don’t try and change their friends to satisfy their vanity issues."
"You shouldn't have to change your appearance to be part of a wedding," someone else commented. "Your friend knew the deal when she asked you. Demanding you do something other than wear a specific dress and shoes is bridezilla [in my opinion]."
"People are in a wedding party because you love them, not because they look right," chimed in a third person.
The writer agreed that her friend's resistance to accepting her as she is has become a problem. "I’ve always been bald and that’s who I am and you’ve never cared before so what’s the big deal?" she wrote. "But people have been acting like that’s the stupidest reason in the world.
"I think the whole thing of 'women have to have long hair to be pretty and feminine' is outdated (expletive)," she later added. "She has balding and bald relatives. One of the groomsmen shaves his head too! Will they spoil the (wedding) photos? No one would ever ask them to wear a rug. It just seems like a stupid double standard to me."
That is why she ultimately decided to step down. "At this point I think I’m just going to bow out of the wedding party, and if she still doesn’t want me there as a guest with no hair, then the wedding too," she added. "It’s her wedding so she gets the final say in what she wants even if I think it’s dumb."
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