Finding out you're pregnant brings a lot of emotions. Some people are happy, some are nervous, and some are plain overwhelming. It's hard to keep that information to yourself, but if the moment isn't right to tell your partner the two of you are expecting, you might stay quiet for a bit. Every situation is different and a mom-to-be knows best.
A woman recently found out she and her husband are expecting their third child, but he was in the hospital recovering from an attack, so she didn't tell him right away. She did share the news with her best friend, who had a strange reaction. Instead of being excited and staying quiet, she demanded the pregnant woman tell her husband. Now she's feeling guilty she didn't tell him first, and it's all a mess.
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The timing wasn't right for a pregnancy announcement.
The original poster shared her story in Reddit's Am I the A–hole forum. She explained her husband was attacked and had to spend time in a hospital to recover. That's when she found out she was pregnant.
"We're in a fortunate position with our finances and his job is safe so I really just wanted my husband to just focus on resting and healing and I wanted to just spend time with him and take care of him before burdening him with the fact that we were having another baby. I didn't tell him about being pregnant and planned to hide it for a little while before I told him," she wrote.
She had to tell someone.
She shared the news with someone she thought was her best friend, but it didn't go as she expected. Her friend accused her of cheating on her husband and told her that if she didn't go to the hospital immediately and tell him the news, she was going to do it for her.
"I went straight to my husband and told him the truth that I was pregnant since I really didn't want him to hear from anyone but me," she wrote. "He wasn't happy that I hid this but he was understanding and reassured me that we would be okay and told me he was excited for our third child. Now that's it out, I feel a little guilty about not telling him sooner. Obviously, he deserved to know the second I found out but given the circumstances, AITA?"
Redditors didn't think much of this 'friend.'
Many people thought the friend overreacted and was unkind to OP in her time of need.
"NTA. Your friend is an absolute jerk. You were going through a serious family crisis and you made a decision having weighed up all the circumstances of your family life. It was absolutely not her place to be throwing out ultimatums during a crisis time," one person wrote. "But even stranger, that you were having an affair. Where did she get that from? If she made that up and then tried to force you with it, that's a friendship deal breaker. You need to end it with her immediate. She sounds more like a liability than a friend."
This Redditor told OP to run: "NTA but FFS drop this 'friend.' WTF is wrong with her that she would be so judgemental and just go straight to 'you're cheating'? She seems a little too involved in your relationship and it was none of her business when you told your husband.
"IMO she seriously crossed some lines there and I would never confide in her again," the person continued. "I'd be done with her. Tell her to F off and block her on everything."
What is going on with OP's husband and her friend?
Maybe nothing, but her reaction made some Redditors suspicious.
"You were trying to save your husband from unnecessary stress and your 'friend' decided to turn that around for her own reasons," someone wrote. "She wants your husband. Get her out of your lives."
This person thought it was straight-up sus, writing, "What's up with your friend ? very suspicious. Dump her, block her make sure she has no access to your husband at the hospital because I think there's s— going down.
"Who reacts like that when you confide in a close friend saying that you're pregnant with your husband's child but he's in serious condition in the hospital and she accuses you of adultery?" the person continued. "OK, she's telling on herself."
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Maybe they all need to regroup.
Some people think OP's friend is after her husband, and others believe she is just a jerk. At this point, most people want OP and her husband to focus on his recovery and her pregnancy and happy life together. They advised her to leave the drama behind.
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