We all know that one person who had to have everything be absolutely perfect on their wedding day. No dress was too pricey, no venue was too fancy, and no demands were too unreasonable for their big day. But there are definitely limits on what you can and cannot ask of your bridal party, and one anonymous bride-to-be is facing some serious backlash for wanting to kick her own sister out of her wedding because of her weight.
A copy of the bride’s Facebook post was recently shared on the r/weddingshaming forum.
And boy oh boy, did people have feelings about what she wrote.
"This is going to sound so nasty but I'm thinking about dropping my sister as bridesmaid,” the bride wrote in her post.
She wrote that her sister is a “nightmare” because of her weight.
"When I asked her what size she was she said size 20 which is completely wrong, she's way bigger than me and I wear between 16-20 clothes,” she explained.
She even pointed out that although her sister says she can fit into a smaller size, that's probably not true.
“She seems to think because she can wear size 20 leggings, she can wear size 20 tops but leggings are stretching and her top half is way bigger,” she continued.
Her sister got “super on the defense” when the bride told her she “couldn’t possibly be a size 20 and she kept being a nightmare picking dresses that wouldn’t be great for her body shape.
"I think she's going to be so hard to dress because of how big she is and how she won't accept she will need bigger dresses,” she added. “I’m not really sure what to do, I feel awful but it’s stressing me out so much.”
Some people blamed the bride for body shaming.
"This is absolutely disgusting why can't they just wear same color different styles and so what if she's a size 20, average size for UK women is a 16.. embrace big and beautiful as curves are absolutely gorgeous," one commenter pointed out.
"She could have not body shamed, but she literally says 'she's an absolute nightmare because of her weight,'" another commenter wrote in response to one person who thought the bride was in the right. "I think you're trying to (kindly) give more emphasis to the fact that the sister hasn't accepted her size especially in wedding sizing. This bride cares what size her sister is: she says 'she is going to be so hard to dress because of her size.'"
"You don't ask for a person"s size, you ask them to get measured and then send measurements. Sizes vary, measurements don't," someone else argued.
Other people thought the bride's sister needed to be reasonable.
"In the brides semi-defence, I feel like anyone being a nightmare about dresses is stressful) — no matter why," wrote one person. "Whether it’s because they won’t get properly fitted, or won’t choose an appropriate style, that’s annoying regardless of their body type."
"I can offer a bit of a different perspective here — she’s not body shaming," someone else agreed. "Her sister is body shaming herself by refusing to wear her actual size and then complaining that things don’t look good on her/she can’t get the dress.
"No one cares what the size on your tag is, no one will see it!" the commenter continued. "But when you use it against a bride as a reason not to get certain dresses — only trying on ill fitting dresses and then saying they don’t work — it’s a nightmare. She doesn’t care what size her sister is, she cares that her sister won’t acknowledge what fits and what doesn’t and therefore won’t settle on a dress."
Another person put it this way: "If I'd shame anyone here, it'd be the sister and not the bride," adding this:
"Bridal shop sizing is a nightmare that can trigger anyone big or small, especially if they're telling you a size 4 different than you usually are. Her ego is probably hurt, but the bride seems to be doing her best to try putting her in something that'll make her look nice. She shouldn't be shamed because her grown, adult sister doesn't want to listen."
Bridal shopping isn't always fun, but being called a "nightmare" probably isn't much fun either.
