After all the hubbub of your wedding, your honeymoon is actually a nice time to get away with your partner and celebrate your marriage — just the two of you. But that doesn’t seem very likely to happen for one person on Reddit, who was seriously annoyed when she learned that her future sister-in-law booked her wedding for the same weekend as her honeymoon — and now her husband’s whole family will be at their hotel during their romantic trip.
The woman and her husband already planned their big May wedding.
They decided they wanted to have a break between their wedding and their honeymoon, so they waited and booked a trip to Jamaica in November.
“We've had the resort booked for a few months now and our family has known all about it,” she explained in a post on Reddit's r/weddingplanning forum.
“So it came as a total shock to us when my [Future Husband's] step-sister and her fiancé announced they'd be getting married at the same resort, at the same time as our honeymoon,” she wrote.
The couple is booked for five nights and now her fiancé’s whole family will be there on their vacation.
It was a big bummer to the original poster.
“Two days of our honeymoon will now consist of the rehearsal/dinner and their wedding day leaving two days for just us on what was supposed to be our own honeymoon,” she wrote.
“When booking we splurged on the expensive room because it's our only honeymoon so we're spending A LOT of money to now not even get our alone time,” she continued.
They tried to explain this to her fiancé’s family.
They told them that they’d already had their whole honeymoon planned and booked before her SIL’s wedding “and will be planning on doing our own thing,” she explained. But they were met with “guilt over not wanting to spend time with family (a lot of which are coming from far away).”
“Regardless we're sticking to our plan as much as possible but will be attending the rehearsal and wedding,” she added. “This is just such a frustrating situation and I needed to vent.”
People in the comments section were incredulous.
"Uh … that is SO weird!!!" one person wrote. "Why on earth would they do that? Why wouldn't they even TALK to you about it first! They knew it was the same resort? At the same time???"
"This has completely baffled me," another commenter agreed. "Why would they not only get married during your honeymoon, but in the same country and at the same resort?! Was this intentional? I completely understand you being frustrated with this! The wedding itself is about family, but honeymoons? NO! Those are for the couple! I’m so sorry you guys have had your honeymoon robbed from you! Ugh, I’m frustrated for you!"
And a third commenter put it this way:
"I will never understand the motivation behind things like this," the person wrote. "My (now) BIL planned and booked his wedding for the same day as ours and I think he just thrives on the chaos it created. We decided not to give in to the chaos (especially bc they were on again off again and we didn’t know if they would even make it to the wedding date) and just hold firm in our original plan. It drove his family insane that we wouldn’t budge on what we had originally planned but it drove his brother even crazier that we weren’t bothered by it. I don’t know your FSIL or what her intentions were but I would just make it clear that if it’s actually happening it’s not going to be taking over your honeymoon and you’re not going to be spending time with people you otherwise would not want on your honeymoon. If you change the date of your honeymoon who’s to say they won’t just change their date to also be at the same time?"
And other people offered the OP some good advice on how to get her honeymoon back.
"I would be petty enough to see if the flights and/or hotel reservation/PTO was all moveable – this far out it well might be," one commenter suggested. "Your FSIL should have run this by you at minimum first, it was clearly intentional (how else would they pick the resort and time)? I would feel like my honeymoon was getting ruined, personally, and be pretty resentful."
"I'd contact the airline and say an emergency came up (WHICH IT HAS)," another commenter added. "Then re-plan your honeymoon. I know that isn't ideal but do you really want to spend your honeymoon with y'alls entire family?? And don't tell ANYONE. Just cancel the original one in Jamaica, get married in May, and book your honeymoon at a new place for the exact same time. I assume since it's so far out, the resort should be able to accommodate you. Even if you perhaps have to pay a small fee. I implore you though, do NOT tell anyone that you're doing this if you decide this is the best course of action. You're already waited months after your actual wedding to go on honeymoon. You'll want to spend that time alone. ALSO, did your FH bring this up? Also, I wouldn't go to the wedding. Book it in a completely different place. Your FSIL is ludicrous."
"That is the plot of a bad movie," someone else wrote. "I’m so sorry she did that to both of you! I would change to a cheap room for the days you need to be there for her wedding, and replan the honeymoon and not tell anyone your plans."
A change of plans might be just the solution to the OP's problem — or maybe they'll need to plan for a second honeymoon.
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