Woman Refuses To Be in Sister’s ‘Redo’ Wedding After Seeing What a Bridezilla She Can Be

You probably know someone who was a bit of a pain during their wedding. There’s a word for someone like that — bridezilla. But that’s not a name I pull out lightly unless someone really, really deserves it. A prime candidate for bridezilla status is the sister of one woman on Reddit, who basically made her wedding six years ago a miserable experience for everyone else. Now her sister wants to “redo” her wedding and naturally was furious when the Redditor told her there was no way she’d be her bridesmaid for a second time.

To be fair to the Redditor's sister, her first wedding didn’t “quite as planned.”

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Six years later, her sister wants to try the whole wedding thing one more time. As the original poster explained in a post on the Am I The A–hole forum, her sister is planning to have a wedding redo late next year.

But the OP is still recovering from the last time she was her sister’s bridesmaid.

“I was her bridesmaid/kinda maid of honor with one of her friends, and she treated me like s–t,” the OP admitted. “I was younger then and didn't really say much because the rest of my family would have told me to deal with it for her day, and be the grownup like I was supposed to be.”

She tried to stand up to her sister.

But apparently, it was unacceptable that the OP couldn’t afford to pay her sister for her dress in-full on the same day as the rest of the bridesmaids.

“I had told her before that my payments would be a little late with me being a struggling college student and all that, but instead of either changing her mind about me being her bridesmaid or offering to pay and I could pay her back, she spoke to me like a disobedient child in front of her friends and the ladies at the store,” the OP recalled.

It was extremely stressful for the OP.

And she wasn’t the only one who faced her sister’s wrath. A cousin had a medical emergency and their brother’s girlfriend went into labor on her sister’s wedding day — which really set her off.

“I bore the brunt of her anger that day and afterward she got pissy with our brother's girlfriend for taking the spotlight from her and now they don't talk and she doesn't know our nephew,” she wrote.

This is all to say, the OP was not going to get dragged into a second wedding day for her sister.

Of course, her sister wasn’t going to let a simple no suffice. She demanded that the OP explain why she was refusing and the OP told it to her plainly.

“I told her to reflect on how she treated me at her last wedding and left it there,” she explained.

The problem is that now their parents, “paternal grandma and paternal aunts and great aunts are all rallying to get me to say yes, and to apologize for saying no.”

Most people in the comments thought the OP would be nuts to agree to be in her sister’s wedding again.

“[Not the A–hole] — She was a Bridezilla the first time around and has had six years to plan how to be even more demanding the second time around," one commenter wrote.

“[Not the A–hole]," someone else commented. "You are a person with free will. If you feel you were treated badly and don't want to be put in a position where it could happen again, well you have every right to do as you please and shouldn't feel any guilt for that choice. "

A third person warned: “[Not the A–hole] Don’t put yourself through that again. And you don’t have anything to bloody apologize for."

Unfortunately, as the OP explained later in the thread, her family is probably going to keep putting on the pressure.

“It's more that most of my family believe weddings are sacred and the bride should get the perfect day she wants and everyone should do what she wants to give it to her,” she explained.

But she should stay strong. If she’s damned if she is a part of the wedding and is damned if she isn’t, then she might as well take the road that is going to least likely cause herself a major headache.

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