While weddings may seem like family and friends happily gathering together to celebrate love, they’re often so much more than that. They are social events that cost thousands of dollars, and they involve wrangling of sometimes hundreds of people. To keep things running smoothly and to alleviate the drama that can come with it, there have to be rules of etiquette in place.
Sadly, these rules aren’t always known, understood, or followed by all people. And when that happens, conflict can arise. That’s what happened when one couple received a gift from one of their guests only for it to be rescinded … kind of.
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A husband said his brother-in-law gave him two airplane tickets as a wedding gift years ago.
A husband brought his wedding woes to Reddit where he asked the community there if he was being an a–hole for his response to his brother-in-law’s gift-giving behavior. The OP wrote that he got married a few years ago. His wife's brother, who works for a major US airline, gifted the two of them roundtrip tickets to anywhere in the 48 contiguous United States, excluding Hawaii and Alaska. On the card, the BIL wrote that they could redeem the offer any time they wanted. They just had to give him a month’s notice.
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The OP and his wife were finally ready to cash the tickets in, but in an unexpected way.
Since their wedding, the BIL has been promoted several times. Recently, the OP and his wife asked their BIL if they could use the tickets. Instead of two roundtrip tickets, they wanted to use the offer for a friend who is relocating. They gave the BIL six months' advance notice. But apparently, that wasn’t enough, and he said no.
The OP told his BIL to give him and his wife cash and 'never talk to us again.'
The BIL told the OP that not only could he not give them their wedding gift, he couldn’t get them any tickets at all. The OP found this particularly interesting considering the BIL had just traveled to Florida and California. When the OP realized his BIL wouldn’t be able to provide him with the tickets, he told him to Cash App him $1,600, the cost of two roundtrip tickets to Las Vegas, where he planned to go with his wife. “And then never talk to us again,” he told him.
The people agreed: The OP is an a--hole.
At the suggestion, the BIL bashed not only the OP, but his sister — the OP’s wife — as well, he asked the Reddit community, "Am the asshole for expecting he actually give my wife and I our gift?"
The people of Reddit answered with a resounding "yes." Many said that not only were the OP and his wife wrong for waiting so long to use the gift, but that he was also totally out of line for suggesting that his wife never speak to her brother again over a wedding gift.
Others mentioned the fact that the OP didn't even want to use the tickets for himself.
Others took issue with the fact that the OP didn’t even want to use the tickets for him and his wife.
“Now you want to have him pay for someone else's plane tickets and he tells you he can't do that, so you demand $1600 and no further contact of your wife's brother?” one user asked incredulously. “You're entitled, not that bright if you think this was a good idea, and YTA.”
We have to agree. Re-gifting is one thing, but telling the original giver that you’re giving it to someone else is tacky. Furthermore, demanding cash for a wedding that happened years ago is unbelievably rude. Hopefully, this OP will see the error of his ways and apologize to his BIL.
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