For many people, the most fun part of their wedding day is the reception. People love to relax, enjoy food, maybe have a few drinks, and do plenty of dancing. Whether you choose live music or a DJ, anyone who can get people on their feet and have a good time at the reception will certainly be a hit.
A man and his wife just got married, and she arranged to have a fantastic band play. Everyone was having a great time until the groom realized the singer was his ex-girlfriend from high school. His new wife didn't know this person and chose the band based on an agency recommendation.
The groom was totally weirded out having his ex as the singer and kicked her and the entire band out of the reception. His wife was livid, and he thought she was overacting. Do you think this marriage is going to last?
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This ex was from his teenage years.
Like many of the best stories, this came from Reddit's AITA forum. The groom posted the day after his wedding and shared the whole story. OP claimed that his new wife didn't share who she booked for the wedding, and he didn't ask. But when he saw the singer, he flipped out. His bride didn't see the issue, but he approached the band anyway.
"I told her to finish up in the next 30 minutes and to leave. She looked shocked and so does her band members. I reassured them it's not because of the performance," he wrote. "One of the band members said even though they were being asked to leave early, since they already rocked up and this is a change of mind on the day, there will be no refunds. I told them I won't be pursuing a refund."
His wife was absolutely livid.
Unsurprisingly, OP's wife was extremely unhappy with him and wanted to know what was going on.
"Told my wife that the band is leaving and she was livid. Kept asking me why it's such a big deal because of an ex and asked me if I still had feelings for her," he wrote. "I said no that's absurd, but I felt uncomfortable that I was reminded of my past relationship at the worst possible time."
He added that he hired a DJ for the rest of the night, but his wife didn't enjoy the party and went straight to bed at the hotel when the evening was over. Now he’s asking if he was an a–hole.
Redditors wondered if he was joking.
They couldn't believe this guy actually thought what he did was justified. Someone wrote, "YTA for ruining your own wedding over nothing. Too bad for your partner that she will be stuck getting divorced."
Redditors were also hung up on the fact that this girlfriend was from high school.
"I cannot imagine what the g/f and band members thought of you. 15 years have passed. It was a high school crush," one comment reads. "You ruined your wedding day. You ruined your wedding night. It was humiliating for your wife. I don't think she will ever forgive you."
Lots of people think OP's wife should run.
They don't see much of a future for these two and wonder if OP's wife can end it quickly. Lots of people shared what they'd do.
"If I was your wife I'd be filing for an annulment," one person shared. "Sending a band home because you're hung up on the fact your ex from school – that you haven't spoken to in over 15yrs and dated when you were what? 16? (I'm in the UK no idea what high school equates to) is a big red flag for me."
This Redditor agreed, commenting, "You ruined your new wife's night over an ex from high school. You ruined the band performance and unilaterally decided that your brand new wife should just deal with a lesser musical option because you couldn't handle a non-issue. You wasted your wife's time and money. I wonder if she can get an annulment."
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OP really blew it.
This marriage is likely not going to last – at least if you ask Redditors. Lots of people think there was more to it than OP was letting on. If this high school girl meant so much to him then maybe he shouldn't have married someone else. And if the marriage does last, what is OP's wife in for?
This person summed it up nicely: "YTA. Let's hope that the obstetrician on-call when your wife is someday giving birth is not your 'senior summer' hook-up, because she's gonna have to drop her gown right there and get out! How dare she show up while your wife is giving birth!
"Or your wife makes dinner reservations and one of the other ex's is a manager," the person continued. "You thought you could trust your wife to make reservations, but look at what she has done! Seated you in the vicinity of an ex from 17 years ago!"
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